I have just spent 1.5 hrs + listening to the recap of daughter's first approximately 1.5 yrs of college that she now feels comfortable telling me. There is seriously not enough wine. I am so thankful that we are having these frank conversations and am also so thankful that they are occurring in college rather than in high school or middle school, but still. I guess next year she will be out of this thread.
You are brave.
My daughter is back from college for the first time after starting her freshman year. She is safe, sound, in one piece, does not appear to be ravaged by binge drinking, drugs, bad relationships, etc ... lalalala-I-don't-want-to-know-yet!
In fact, she has made me aware that she has a very bad roommate (and has probably also been a very bad roommate) so I heard about that. I heard about her roommate wanting to make the brownies pot brownies when the rest of the roomies just wanted regular chocolate brownies and her roommate getting drunk and barfing everywhere and bringing home various one-night hookups. I didn't hear what she had done to antagonize her roommate and I also didn't ask. Probably not pot, barfing drunk, or one night hookups but I am sure she has contributed to the unhappiness in other ways, if simply by calling her a barfing pothead slut (or worse).
On a brighter note, after dinner this evening I sat in stunned silence while she cleared all the dishes from the table, rinsed them, and put them in the dishwasher without being asked, and then wiped her (blue) lipstick off the edge of her cup before putting it in the dishwasher, at which point I started wondering where my own child had gone. She then voluntarily helped me in the kitchen with something she doesn't particularly like doing and when I showed her how to do it she kept her hands on the task and didn't step back and let me take over and wander away, but said "oh you mean like this?" and nudged me aside and finished the job. So, at some point she has either matured a whole bunch or else she has been possessed by aliens.
MrHungry asked her what the biggest lesson she had learned living on her own was, and she said, "food is expensive." Yeah.