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« Reply #15 on: May 02, 2012, 3:19:44 PM »

Thank you for the article bioteacher.

Today I got a hug from another student and felt less awkward because of what I heard from you all. :)
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« Reply #16 on: May 02, 2012, 9:12:59 PM »

There is a good article up on this right now.

I like the idea of a teddy bear in my office for hugs. I need to get one and make a shirt for it that says "free hugs."

I occasionally have students hug me. It's quite rare. I can think of two occasions when I initiated a hug. The students were dealing with some really major traumas. I asked if they needed/wanted a hug and got a tearful nod in reply. I was happy to oblige.

We are social primates at our core. And while I absolutely believe that we need boundaries and even caution with some students, we're all human. And when life rains crap down upon our heads, sometimes a hug can help.


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« Reply #17 on: May 02, 2012, 9:27:01 PM »

I've never hugged a student, but when I was a student, I did hug my advisor.  She still hugs me whenever she sees me.  Actually, come to think of it, most of my former professors hug me when they see me.

Gee, now I'm wondering what kind of vibe I give off that makes my students not want to hug me.
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« Reply #18 on: May 02, 2012, 9:41:04 PM »

I was hugged today by my previously mentioned permission-to-even-think-about-peeing. She's come a ways, but still has a lot of work to do. She credits me with that progression, but all I did was push her to do it by herself.
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« Reply #19 on: May 02, 2012, 9:42:52 PM »

There is a good article up on this right now.

I like the idea of a teddy bear in my office for hugs. I need to get one and make a shirt for it that says "free hugs."

I occasionally have students hug me. It's quite rare. I can think of two occasions when I initiated a hug. The students were dealing with some really major traumas. I asked if they needed/wanted a hug and got a tearful nod in reply. I was happy to oblige.

We are social primates at our core. And while I absolutely believe that we need boundaries and even caution with some students, we're all human. And when life rains crap down upon our heads, sometimes a hug can help.


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We actually have a bear, but it's not for students. He is a Dissertation Therapy Bear. We paid the extra at Build-a-Bear so that when you hug him, he says "You are smart and your ideas are good. You will finish someday."
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Oh, I want one! Maybe when I graduate I will get that for my advisor to keep in her office. 
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« Reply #20 on: May 02, 2012, 9:59:24 PM »

What a cool idea! I see that Build-a-bear also has many university-specific T-shirts. I need to do this, I think.
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« Reply #21 on: May 02, 2012, 9:59:54 PM »

I do not allow my students to touch my person in any way.  It disturbs the vibrations.
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« Reply #22 on: May 02, 2012, 10:09:28 PM »

A schoolteacher friend of mine in the UK tells me their policy they can do sideways hugs.  No hugs where genitalia face each other (although presumably their policy is not stated in those terms). 
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« Reply #23 on: May 02, 2012, 10:23:20 PM »

A schoolteacher friend of mine in the UK tells me their policy they can do sideways hugs.  No hugs where genitalia face each other (although presumably their policy is not stated in those terms). 

Ah, like the Duggar family!  They're not allowed to give anything but sideways hugs, even to their own siblings.

I get and give more hugs to fellow faculty than students, and it doesn't take long to separate the huggers from the non-huggers.  Thankfully, I have a hugger in the offices on either side of my office, so I'm all set.
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« Reply #24 on: May 02, 2012, 10:48:31 PM »

There are two professors that I know I'll get and give hugs to whenever we meet on campus. They're both former business professors of mine. There's another that hugs occasionally. My chorus prof and I hug in church, but never on campus. In all cases, they initiate them, although it's become so common with the two business professors that I can't really say that either of us initiates those any longer. They just happen.
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« Reply #25 on: May 02, 2012, 10:55:43 PM »

Ick.  I would get really uncomfortable if a student attempted to hug me.  I'm not at all big on physical contact with people I'm not currently shagging (I can't even deal with massages).

I make a point of shaking each student's hand and wishing them the best for the future as they turn in their final and leave for the last time, though.
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« Reply #26 on: May 02, 2012, 11:32:42 PM »

A schoolteacher friend of mine in the UK tells me their policy they can do sideways hugs.  No hugs where genitalia face each other (although presumably their policy is not stated in those terms). 

Ah, like the Duggar family!  They're not allowed to give anything but sideways hugs, even to their own siblings.

Really? Really??!?
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« Reply #27 on: May 02, 2012, 11:35:17 PM »

A schoolteacher friend of mine in the UK tells me their policy they can do sideways hugs.  No hugs where genitalia face each other (although presumably their policy is not stated in those terms). 

Ah, like the Duggar family!  They're not allowed to give anything but sideways hugs, even to their own siblings.

Really? Really??!?

The Duggars are pretty much in the Tyson Zone for me, so I'm buying it.
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« Reply #28 on: May 02, 2012, 11:43:25 PM »

NO Hugging!
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« Reply #29 on: May 02, 2012, 11:52:07 PM »

I would hug if a student initiated one, but most want to shake hands, high five, or fist-bump as they turn in their final exams rather than hug - maybe because the room is such chaos as many, many students are turning in their exams? (I am a TA for discussion sections of a large lecture course, and the exams take place in a huge auditorium.)

On the other hand, when I was teaching my own, smaller classes, I did get occasional hugs. And I hug my advisor and other faculty mentors from time to time.
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