Crush on a professor... is this inappropriate/dangerous ?

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nakedskydiver:
Hi,

I am a student but I hope you won't mind me asking this question here. I just want to get some perspective on it. A few years ago I had the most awesome professor for my honours "skydiving" course, I liked how he explained things and he was very encouraging and absolutely fascinating. He just had this twinkle in his eyes and looked very smart. I had signed up to take a course with him the next semester and when he didn't come to the first class I asked the TA where the prof was. Apparently right after I had him for my class he got made department chair. Most of my friends thought my crush on my prof was cute and I think he enjoyed being liked and he was so polite and caring towards me that I felt very good and basically I've been struggling the past few years and having someone that I feel connected to, and who I feel really wants me to learn has somewhat kept me in what has been a challenging major that I really wanted to study but my parents don't approve of. Somehow he makes me feel very loved because he thinks I deserve to have this knowledge and I can do the subject that I really love which is something I don't get from many other people.

It's almost four years later and I still think this prof is the most fascinating person. I find most of the other profs in my dept pretty fascinating but not quite as fascinating as him. Lately though I am wondering if this is an dangerous or inappropriate situation. I think that prof may have some feelings towards me too which kind of scares me. I don't think that any sort of inappropriate relationship would ever happen between us. Prof has never hit on me in a way that felt creepy and basically he always stands way across the room when talking to me, but I am aware of how much I look up to him and I feel vulnerable. Should I try to get rid of my feelings ? Right now how I feel seems to be working out fairly well. I feel supported and he feels flattered or liked. I mean I'm not even sure that I like him more than just as a person. Is this a dangerous situation ? I am aware that I am probably a bit influenced in my feelings because he was my prof and I looked up to him/look up to him.

It would be great to hear people's thoughts on this.

geonerd:
People's thoughts on this can be found here:

http://chronicle.com/forums/index.php/topic,65491.0.html
http://chronicle.com/forums/index.php/topic,71691.0.html
http://chronicle.com/forums/index.php/topic,48869.0.html
http://chronicle.com/forums/index.php/topic,68578.0.html
http://chronicle.com/forums/index.php/topic,63492.0.html
http://chronicle.com/forums/index.php/topic,37035.0.html

We need not spend another 10-page thread on it. I'll summarize:

Fora: Don't act on it.
OP: But THIS is different.
<Lawnchairs, popcorn>
Drama, extraneous capitalization, over-use of bolded words
Accusations of socks and trolling
Counter accusations of cliques
GCF and/or we all get distracted once the spring semester starts


walkingtree:
I don't like it when a student has crush on me. It's kind of boring and predictable. I am sure that's what your prof thinks as well.

zarathustra:
Too soon for lawnchair? 

Popcorn anyone?

I do hope this trainwreck turns out nicely...

reener06:
Quote from: geonerd on January 05, 2012,  7:25:17 pm

People's thoughts on this can be found here:

http://chronicle.com/forums/index.php/topic,65491.0.html
http://chronicle.com/forums/index.php/topic,71691.0.html
http://chronicle.com/forums/index.php/topic,48869.0.html
http://chronicle.com/forums/index.php/topic,68578.0.html
http://chronicle.com/forums/index.php/topic,63492.0.html
http://chronicle.com/forums/index.php/topic,37035.0.html

We need not spend another 10-page thread on it. I'll summarize:

Fora: Don't act on it.
OP: But THIS is different.
<Lawnchairs, popcorn>
Drama, extraneous capitalization, over-use of bolded words
Accusations of socks and trolling
Counter accusations of cliques
GCF and/or we all get distracted once the spring semester starts





+1 Thanks geonerd!

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