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Author Topic: Helicopter Parents Now Show Up At Childrens' Job Interviews  (Read 12489 times)
alto_stratus
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« Reply #45 on: February 17, 2012, 11:54:52 AM »

A parent accompanying a job interviewee is all the reason I need to reject. I need an employee or co-worker who does not need a parent to get their work done.

While I agree that it is a strong reason to reject, I disagree with the sweeping characterisation as all such interviewees "needing a parent to get their work done". In this very thread, we are reminded that there are people with parents who have mental disorders.


Maybe it's because I tend to assume these situations are usually the parent's issue (not the student's), but I think lightningstrike was just trying to make the point that parents who think they are helping (?) in some way are actually hindering.  But yes, mental issues are often a part of the parent's dynamic, so you can't assume a rational argument will have any impact.  I had a helicopter parent when I was a student.  I, my other family members, and even a few administrators tried to convince them that this behavior was destructive, but my parent believed everyone else was wrong.  As macadamia says, you might not think it takes a secret service quality of separation, but I have seen that sometimes it does.
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« Reply #46 on: February 17, 2012, 02:33:20 PM »

There were a lot of highly educated SAHMs when we lived in Northern Virginia who frequently showed up IN COSTUME for their kids' elementary school activities -- medieval costumes, pajamas, Ancient Civilizations Day, pilgrims, etc.  (leading to the birth of one of my many parenting rules:  When shopping for a new elementary school, be very wary of any school that sells spirit wear in adult sizes.)

My theory is that these are all grown-up sorority girls who got into the habit of going to lots of themed parties back in the day and who are somehow reliving that thrilling chapter of their life now that their kids are in school.  Me?  I've always been WAY too self-conscious to wear a costume in public and still remember how thrilled I was to finally be too old for trick or treating. 

The moms in costume thing has always been a pet peeve of mine, however, because I felt that it gave the somewhat cold-hearted school administrators more license to dismiss ALL moms as stupid wackos who have no credibility and who act like grown-up children.  I remember purposely showing up in a blazer and blouse and good pumps to advocate for my child's special Asperger needs and feeling like the dynamic between administrators and parents had already been set by the antics of these other moms, and that it ended up making it easier for them to dismiss me and my concerns as 'just another wacko mom with too much time on her hands.'


But whoa - just saw this:

http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/moms-mickey-mouse-school-surprise-backfires-202500598.html

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« Reply #47 on: February 20, 2012, 02:24:33 PM »

This may have been posted earlier but if so, it bears repeating -
Helicopter Parents from Portlandia.
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« Reply #48 on: February 22, 2012, 10:31:08 AM »

When I turned 18, went off to college, and started getting "real" jobs, my parents more or less told me that I was on my own, compared to this. If I needed help with something I could always ask them, but they figured at that age I was old enough to A) Do most of what I needed to do on my own and B) Some things were mistakes I needed to make as an adult.

If I'd asked them to intercede w/a teacher or a boss, they'd probably laugh at me.
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« Reply #49 on: February 22, 2012, 11:06:44 AM »

Wow!  That video clip was truly disturbing.  Thanks for sharing . .
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