I find that freshmen love me (75% of my teaching), while upper-level students like me less. The trick at my school is to give all the folks in the upper-level classes final grades of A or B unless they plagiarize or skip a major assignment (those folks get Cs), and do lots of hand-holding. Tell them how great they are doing, and how impressed you are by their work. Scaffold everything so they can't fail even if they try. Smile all the time. Say how much you love teaching the course. Now that I do these things, the upper-level students like me more than they used to. I save my content-based exams and tough love for the freshmen, who are science majors, etc., and used to such things. For my History majors, we are on a journey of self-exploration, student engagement, and fluffy bunnies.
I am guessing that I will need to do some of this until tenure. One student seemed outraged that he/she had to take exams, even though that's a norm everywhere else I've taught, so, yeah...looks like it's time for take-home short essay exams! I think, however, that I'll need to do the "your research ideas are highly impressive" spiel rather than the journey and the fluffy bunnies, but really that's the same thing. "You have interesting thoughts about the theme of death in literature."
I've just learned that I do have to respond directly to negative feedback (incl written) in my annual report, so I will need to revisit them several times as that report will follow me around. But if I focus on improvement rather than let myself dwell on them, I'll be much happier. And I'm definitely doing mid-semester evals this time...
I also agree with docsavage that some students may take their evaluative power so seriously that they delight in harsh criticism.
In general, I'm blown away by how helpful these comments have been. I waited until my panic had settled down before revisiting this thread, and I'm so glad that I'm feeling better and that this will remain bookmarked for me as I progress through the semester. Thanks!
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