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[sagit]

I choose none of the above.  

Instead, I would speak to the postdoc in person (or call him on the phone if that's not possible) and request the same courtesy he extends to his supervisor.  I would specifically note that failing to extend to me that same courtesy makes it look like he doesn't respect women above him in rank, and that such practices could hurt him in professional ways in the future, because academia is full of hierarchies.

In other words, make this a mentoring moment, and treat him as if you are helping to socialize him to professional practices in your field -- even if that's not true, and women are routinely treated like crap.

I agree with this (or if maybe a polite email if necessary).  The postdoc should be informed of problems with the way he addressed you.  If faculty do not address problems like this, even "small" ones, then nothing will improve in academics for women and minorities. 

[oldfullprof]

2, or what System D said.  It's hard to tell if this kind of thing is deliberate or not.  But it can erode you.  Buzzsaw, referred to on another thread, made a point of introducing me to medical doctors as "Dr. 'Them,' this is 'my first name.'"  I'd always instantly correct her by smiling, shaking hands, and saying, "Dr. My last name."  I think she started telling others I was "rude."  I prefer to say "direct."   

[gekko]

Wow. It's been an entire week since a thread with this topic. Since it occurs so often and the issue still persists, I recommend forehead tattoos indicating preferred form of address.

[larryc]

Pick up the phone. Talk about something else completely, keep it light, and then ask: "By the way, John, I can't help but notice that when you email me and Bill you address him as Dr. Smith and me as Sally. What is up with that?"

He may very well see it as an act of friendliness or gallantry or whatever.

[laurel_knx]

Pick up the phone. Talk about something else completely, keep it light, and then ask: "By the way, John, I can't help but notice that when you email me and Bill you address him as Dr. Smith and me as Sally. What is up with that?"

He may very well see it as an act of friendliness or gallantry or whatever.

Yeah, I like a non-confrontational in-person approach to calling someone's BS. Of course, PhD comics has taught us that email signatures are powerful punishment tools: http://www.phdcomics.com/comics.php?f=1413