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[crowie]

"After seeing you on my recent visit, I have realized that we are not right for each other. I have no interest in getting back together. Good luck with you residency and I am sure you have a great career in front of you."

If you really want to cut it off, send him the exact same, short message each time he contacts you for the first 3-4 times, them don't reply at all.

Don't discuss, just dump him and move on.

Yep.

[lgal121]

Now he is saying that he'll commit to me and make it work, and he feels bad for not giving the long distance a fair chance. He says he wants me, and he'll do what it takes to make it work. I just feel really numb to it though. I am just feeling removed from the situation altogether.

[tinyzombie]

Now he is saying that he'll commit to me and make it work, and he feels bad for not giving the long distance a fair chance. He says he wants me, and he'll do what it takes to make it work. I just feel really numb to it though. I am just feeling removed from the situation altogether.

Good. Now cut off contact with him, and let this thread lie, as it's just allowing him to rent space in your brain, numbness or no. Come back in six months, if you like, and tell us how fabulously you've been getting along without him.

[tenured_feminist]

When my now nearly teenaged son was three, he would sometimes do bad things and keep doing them, despite our warnings of upcoming consequences. When we finally enforced the consequence, he would plead tearfully, "But I'm all done doing that!"

Do you want to continue to be in a romantic relationship with an emotional toddler? There should be only one right answer to this question.

Dump his worthless @ss clearly, definitely, and completely and cut him off. It takes two to make a dysfunctional relationship, and you do not need to play a single more round with this creepazoid.

What TZ says.

[macaroon]

Now he is saying that he'll commit to me and make it work, and he feels bad for not giving the long distance a fair chance. He says he wants me, and he'll do what it takes to make it work. I just feel really numb to it though. I am just feeling removed from the situation altogether.

Stay gone.

He'll do what it takes to make it work?  No, he'll tell you what you want to hear until he gets what he wants.

[username2]

Now I'm not sure if this is trolling or drama. This thread gets 10/10 on both.

[lgal121]

Don't worry, his response hasn't changed my mind about things. I still don't see it working out with us. As I said, I'm just numb to it and over it. We can close out this thread. Thank you for all of the responses and words of encouragement.