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« on: October 15, 2011, 04:24:19 PM » |
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Would it make sense to bring a 2-year-old on an interview trip? My spouse will come with me. But i'm not sure if this would interfere with my interview though... Any suggestions?
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« Reply #1 on: October 15, 2011, 04:26:03 PM » |
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Why is your spouse going with you on an interview? This is not an accepted practice in my discipline. Is it in yours?
Frankly, I would suggest that you leave both spouse and child at home, and focus on the interview, which is normally rather grueling.
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« Reply #2 on: October 15, 2011, 04:30:58 PM » |
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I would not bring either one along. You need to stay focused. 2-year olds don't exactly help in that respect. Neither do spouses, and in any case, I imagine they come as a package (otherwise, who'll be looking after the two year old?). And you absolutely should not let the search committee know they've come along.
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randomlife
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« Reply #3 on: October 15, 2011, 04:33:32 PM » |
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thanks.. i didn't know this sounded so insane until you pointed it out. I was thinking that we might be able to tour the uk after the interview. But as you said, this may not be a right time.
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« Reply #4 on: October 15, 2011, 04:39:01 PM » |
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If you want to tour after the interview then have them join you after the interview. You don't need the pressure of a two year old who has been taken out of his or her routine and likely to be more clingy and needy than usual while you are trying to concentrate on making a good impression. Do yourself a favor, go on your own.
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« Reply #5 on: October 15, 2011, 04:48:32 PM » |
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When I had my UK interview (to take a job here that was to involve a move from the US), I brought my wife along -- it was only fair that she get a sense of what she was being asked to do. As it happened, the HoD was really pleased about this -- it was taken as a sign that I was serious about the position.
But I agree that you don't want to have a 2-year-old soaking up your mental and physical energy while you're on your interview (jetlagged yourself, no doubt). So if your partner wants to see the UK and the city in question before agreeing to go (if you get the offer), then s/he and the kid should do it separately. Since an offer would come soon after the interview and a quick answer would be expected, his/her trip should probably take place before yours.
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« Reply #6 on: October 15, 2011, 04:49:06 PM » |
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Just imagine getting dressed for the interview and having time to read and prepare...by yourself! I bet it's hard to even imagine how nice that might be.
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« Reply #7 on: October 15, 2011, 04:56:13 PM » |
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Or, conversely, imagine getting dressed for the interview and having the 2 year old spill juice and cheerios all over your nice suit. I like collegekidsmom scenario better. I love my kid, but I love and enjoy getting away from my kid a lot. It makes me a better Mom when I return.
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« Reply #8 on: October 15, 2011, 06:11:25 PM » |
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And in addition, a 2-year-old who flies across the Atlantic (1) wiggles and fusses all the way and (2) has a completely wrecked sleep schedule and takes about a week to get the body clock back. Do you want to be coping with that before an interview? (I've done it, alone, with two different 2-year-olds, since my kids are 3 years apart. However, I was not going to interviews or even to defend my dissertation; made a solo trip for the latter.)
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« Reply #9 on: October 16, 2011, 12:52:21 AM » |
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I'm with qypt on this... bring your spouse. Moving to the UK from the US is a BIG deal and your spouse needs to be involved in the decision. Your 2 year old has no say in the matter. Leave the kid with the grandparents and let them have some good bonding (and gagging) time. After the interview you and your spouse can have a mini holiday and do a bit of sightseeing.
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« Reply #10 on: October 16, 2011, 01:24:02 AM » |
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I had an interview in central Europe where they invited my wife to come along and were disappointed she couldn't (hard to get a visa in a short-time). They would have funded the trip (from Australia) if I gave some extra presentations funded by a different budget... They were interested in finding her a position though. Bringing a spouse was seen as a sign of seriousness. I didn't get an offer in the end.
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« Reply #11 on: October 16, 2011, 08:27:29 AM » |
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Why is your spouse going with you on an interview? This is not an accepted practice in my discipline. Is it in yours?
Frankly, I would suggest that you leave both spouse and child at home, and focus on the interview, which is normally rather grueling.
An academic UK job interview gruelling? Where and how? |
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« Reply #12 on: October 16, 2011, 08:30:31 AM » |
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Would it make sense to bring a 2-year-old on an interview trip? My spouse will come with me. But i'm not sure if this would interfere with my interview though... Any suggestions?
Discuss it with your spouse and arrive at a decision. |
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« Reply #13 on: October 16, 2011, 09:41:34 AM » |
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They can fly it *after* your interview. That way, your spouse can get to see the area but you don't have to deal with a cranky, jet-lagged two-year old just as you are trying to prepare.
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« Reply #14 on: October 16, 2011, 03:15:11 PM » |
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As someone who has trans-Atlantic traveled with a toddler... you'd have to be crazy to want to do that.
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