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shoutoutloud
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« on: June 13, 2011, 12:34:26 PM »

Regular female forumite wearing a sock.

I am in my mid-30s and have been diagnosed with a form of alopecia that is slowly destroying my hair. While I can still wear my hair more or less normally now, the path of the disease is unpredictable and treatment options are slim. I am strongly considering shaving my head this summer to start wearing a wig now, so that I can avoid having to do such a drastic transition during the academic year should the condition worsen. But for various reasons I am very distraught by the idea of having to get rid of my hair. I've never worn a wig before, and I'm concerned most of all about comfort, but I'd also not like to stop doing things I enjoy (exercise chief among them). I am also depressed by the idea of having to wear a wig for the next 35+ years of my life.

Are there any forumites who wear wigs and would be willing to post or PM me about their experiences?
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« Reply #1 on: June 14, 2011, 10:11:32 AM »

I don't wear a wig, but I used to know a woman who started wearing wigs in her early 30s after chemo.  She always said it was absolutely worth investing in the best possible, since the fact that her wigs were far nicer looking (in her opinion - I met her after she started wearing wigs) than her own hair gave her something to feel good about.  And honestly, you'd never have guessed her hair wasn't her own if it wasn't for the fact that she'd switch out to flashier and funkier cuts for parties and nights out and be back at work the next day with her sensible, straight, shoulder-length do.

I honestly know nothing about whether there are better or worse wigs for sports and so on, sorry.
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« Reply #2 on: June 14, 2011, 10:14:50 AM »

I will reiterate what Froggy said. People I know who have gotten wigs have gotten them due to chemo, but evidently the key is not to scrimp on price.
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« Reply #3 on: June 14, 2011, 02:37:10 PM »

Also, some insurance companies have started to assist in these kinds of costs when they're medically-driven; a friend of mine wore wigs during chemo and lobbied hard - eventually got her insurance company to cover part of the cost of a high-quality wig.

Definitely worth looking into, as I've heard they can be outrageously expensive.

Good luck, OP!
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« Reply #4 on: June 14, 2011, 02:40:02 PM »

Wow--I just looked at some price tags. Some go for $2000.
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« Reply #5 on: June 14, 2011, 02:59:58 PM »

My sister is currently wearing a wig as she is nearing the end of chemo. She sprung for a (v expensive) wig of human hair. I find that a wee bit creepy, but apparently it moves and sits better than the fake stuff.

Her wig is better looking than her real hair and not wiggy at all. It matches her own hair colour perfectly. But she is quite picky about things and *did not like* (meaning went rather nutso about) that the wig style was different than her normal style. It has to have bangs/fringe, to cover the hairline, which she didn't have normally. It looks great, but she doesn't want to hear that and, well, you don't argue with a woman going through chemo.
So if you can embrace looking different (and having the opportunity to swap styles around), or at least brace yourself for that, long before you make the switch, that seems it would help.

Human hair wigs also apparently need to be washed quite carefully.
Wigs are hot, and you don't want to be sweating into something that is expensive enough that it looks good. Maybe buy a cr@ppy wig or find some kind of scarf/hat thing for sports.
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« Reply #6 on: June 14, 2011, 03:05:18 PM »

My sister is currently wearing a wig as she is nearing the end of chemo. She sprung for a (v expensive) wig of human hair. I find that a wee bit creepy, but apparently it moves and sits better than the fake stuff.

Her wig is better looking than her real hair and not wiggy at all. It matches her own hair colour perfectly. But she is quite picky about things and *did not like* (meaning went rather nutso about) that the wig style was different than her normal style. It has to have bangs/fringe, to cover the hairline, which she didn't have normally. It looks great, but she doesn't want to hear that and, well, you don't argue with a woman going through chemo.
So if you can embrace looking different (and having the opportunity to swap styles around), or at least brace yourself for that, long before you make the switch, that seems it would help.

Human hair wigs also apparently need to be washed quite carefully.
Wigs are hot, and you don't want to be sweating into something that is expensive enough that it looks good. Maybe buy a cr@ppy wig or find some kind of scarf/hat thing for sports.

Also, my understanding is that it's not just human hair, but where the hair is from that counts.
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« Reply #7 on: June 17, 2011, 05:09:28 PM »

My grandmother, who turns 99 next week, has worn a wig since her mid-20s or 30s. She lost her hair due to scarlet fever as a child, and it got progressively thinner, until she decided to go with a wig. She also buys only the expensive kind, and keeps one old one. She used to use the old one to cook in, although I'm not sure why--it would absorb odors, perhaps? And I remember she would get somewhat hot/sweaty in the summer. She always takes good care of them, and they last a long time.

Of course, as a kid I had no idea. She used to visit us in the summer, for a month, and she had to share a room with me when I was 8. The first night she went to bed, and took her dentures out and her wig off. I was pretty freaked out at first. I just wish someone had told me! My Mom thought I knew. I had no idea people had wigs or dentures.
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« Reply #8 on: June 19, 2011, 04:07:45 PM »

My grandmother wore a wig (something I found not only normal as a child, but I also enjoyed wearing one of her wigs to play a grownup woman), my mother and her sister wore hats, and I would likely wear a head scarf if I were married.
So, no first hand experience here either, but some insights I learned from friends and family:

Good wigs are expensive, and the USD 2,000 quoted below are at the lower end for a custom-made, human-hair wig. You should go for a custom-made because the cap (what the hair is attached to) is more important for your comfort than the hair is. Modern cap techniques allow for an almost invisible hairline so that styles without bangs are possible. Something that is still almost impossible to make is a curly hair wig.
Most women have at least two 'good' wigs. Not wearing the same wig every day extends its life significantly. A cheap, synthetic wig is often also in the mix, to be worn at home. I cannot say anything about wigs and exercise, but I would not wear a good, expensive custom-made wig for exercise. And yes, a wig, just like natural hair, absorbs the odor and grease, but you cannot wash a natural-hair wig every day because that shortens its life. Usually, a wig is sent to a salon to be washed and styled.

About the hair: it depends pretty much on your ethnicity. Most human-hair wigs are made from Asian hair (mainly India and China) today that requires a lot of treatment with aggressive chemicals to resemble lighter and thinner Caucasian hair. Caucasian hair comes from East European countries and is more expensive because there are less women who need to sell their hair in Europe these days. European hair is often considered higher quality, though I think that this has some racist undertones. If your natural hair is Asian then a wig made from Asian hair would be better and higher quality for you (and I am aware that the ethnic categories I use here are very broad, imprecise, and also problematic).
In general, a mix of human and synthetic hair does not work well as the two kinds react differently to humidity which will result in bad days.

Wearing a wig damages your natural hair (not an issue if you really intend to shave your head), it becomes dull and thin. Keeping your hair and tucking it under a wig makes the entire business less comfortable, warmer, and often results in a 'bump' if not done expertly. (Most people would not recognize that bump but I always find them funny.)

If you live close to an Orthodox Jewish community of some significant size, try to find a wig-maker there (Chabad women are, for example, wig wearers. If you have a Chabad house on campus, contact the rebbetzin even if you are not Jewish). Most Jewish wig-makers are used to having some clients that wear a wig for medical reasons, and they make the wigs so that the women feel comfortable and attractive wearing the wig to encourage the observance of a religious commandment. Wigs worn during/after chemo, on the other hand, are a temporary solution and the wearer is more willing to endure some discomfort as it is for a limited time.

Some reading suggestions (with apologies for the plain URLs. HTML standard does not work here to encode hyperlinks):
On international hair trade:
I enjoyed reading the following book when it came out a few years ago. Though these are women talking about wearing (or not) some kind of head-covering for religious reasons, they also address practical aspects:
Lynne Schreiber: Hide and Seek: Jewish Women and Hair Covering (http://www.urimpublications.com/Merchant2/merchant.mv?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=UP&Product_Code=hr)

I hope some of this can be of help...
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« Reply #9 on: August 29, 2011, 05:45:27 PM »

Dear friend,
I am experiencing some hair loss as well over the past 6-8 months. The doctors don't really know what it is. It is totally frightening and demoralizing for a woman, I would venture to say much more devastating than for a man. I have been extremely depressed about it and not known what to do.

If the situation gets substantially worse for me, I will eventually consider using hair pieces and eventually wigs. It is not your fault that your hair is falling out, nor is it mine. We don't judge people for wearing glasses or prosthetic limbs, or even for getting plastic surgery. My feeling is that if it makes you feel better about your self esteem, then get a wig. If the wig is uncomfortable, then there are other things such as head scarves, false bangs which can be worn with hats and turbans, and other things to make yourself feel as good looking as possible.

From what I have read, many people with substantial alopecia take the bull by the horns and just shave it all off, when they decide that they are good and ready. It seems to be one way to "take charge."

I would recommend you check out the website alopeciaworld.com as well as the Women's Hair Loss Project.

Stay strong! You did not create this problem, but you have to make peace with it. I wish you the absolute best.
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