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« on: April 13, 2011, 10:35:46 AM » |
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A bit of background: I was at University A for 2 years as a visiting asst. prof. I took the job here at University B to be closer to my then boyfriend (who lived/worked about 100 miles from my University B). Four months after I started (in Fall 2009), my boyfriend lost his job and moved 1500 miles away from me, but only 100 miles from University A.
We got married in January and agreed to do the distance thing. I talked to my current boss before the wedding and told him that I wanted to stay next year (the last of my 3 year contract), if we could condense my teaching schedule to allow me to travel some during the academic year. My boss agreed wholeheartedly and has been wonderfully accommodating! My work life at University B is amazing -- great resources, support, colleagues.
I found out this week that a great position opened up at University A. I think I would be a very competitive candidate (when a similar position opened last year, a friend from Univ. A told me -- we wish we could get an NCgrad candidate here). I am eager to apply (esp as my husband and I want to start a family), but I don't want to harm my reputation or my relationship with my current boss. Any thoughts on how to approach this issue?
I've identified a few options:
1. Be completely honest with current boss and tell him that I am applying.
2. Apply, but don't bring current boss into the loop until I get an offer (if that happens)
3. Suck it up and fulfill the terms of my contract (I"m not sure how binding the contract is...it seems like people in academia leave all the time).
Thanks in advance for any input!
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zharkov
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« Reply #1 on: April 13, 2011, 10:43:14 AM » |
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AFTDJ.
Why did your boyfriend/husband move away?
Does he work in academia? Does he understand that an academic career requires one to be mobile? Which may make him the trailing spouse?
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« Last Edit: April 13, 2011, 10:44:31 AM by zharkov »
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« Reply #2 on: April 13, 2011, 12:51:47 PM » |
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I removed your duplicate topic for you.
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« Reply #3 on: April 13, 2011, 12:57:00 PM » |
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Apply. If you're in the last year of your 3-year contract, wouldn't the position at University A start after your current contract ends anyway? I would not tell University B about applying as you probably won't get the job given its competitive nature. You also need to figure out a long-term plan. Is being 100 miles apart going to be good enough or are you going to move again? Is he going to stay at his new job? You will have trouble if you keep moving around to follow your man. I think you should apply. Why not? If your job is so amazing, why doesn't he apply to be nearer to you? Was the only job he could get 1500 miles away?
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« Reply #4 on: April 13, 2011, 01:51:44 PM » |
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The husband moved because he lost his job -- unfortunately, he works in politics and his options were pretty much limited to DC (where he was) and our home state (where all his connections are). He will definitely stay where he is -- likely at the current job, but even if he moves in the future, it would be in the same city (the state capitol). Our eventual plan was to end up in our home state, but (before he lost his job) we were thinking it would be after I got tenure -- many years into the future.
If I were to get job at University B (essentially getting my old job back), I could see myself staying there long-term. A 100-mile commute sounds like a lot, but I think if it meant being within driving distance of my husband, I could do it. When I was there before, I used to make the 100-mile trip for doctors appointments, drinks with friends, etc.
I am going to apply and see what happens. Thanks for the input!
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« Reply #5 on: April 13, 2011, 02:12:43 PM » |
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A word to the wise: Don't plan on taking a job with a 100 mile commute. While it looks doable on paper, it seldom works. Much better to live halfway and for each person to commute about 50 miles.
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« Reply #6 on: April 13, 2011, 09:22:47 PM » |
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Sorry to hear about your story though. I heard some universities help their spouse locate a job in a nearby area. You might want to ask HR for this option though. Best, -H
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