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« Reply #15 on: November 16, 2009, 05:57:17 PM » |
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I will be going to a colleague's house for turkey, but will otherwise be alone. While on the one hand, I would like some company, I also know that I am so burned out that I really wouldn't be any good to anyone and I need to spend a few days in a recumbent position with my brain turned off for maintenance. (That won't fix things, but it might help me get to the end of the semester!)
Onion, I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup.
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« Reply #16 on: November 16, 2009, 06:13:09 PM » |
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I looked forward to spending my first TG in ttville alone. A colleague asked the day before about my plans. When I said I had none, I ended up receiving a call a few hours later from another colleague. Next thing you know I'm making a dish and sharing with all the other "old maids" [their words] in my department. The next year I made sure to have plans.
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« Reply #17 on: November 16, 2009, 06:52:41 PM » |
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I have spent winter holidays alone before, and I have avoided driving or flying during them for several years. I once ate a Christmas Eve dinner by myself in a Vietnamese restaurant that was within walking distance of my home. The food was a lot yummier than ham.
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« Reply #18 on: November 16, 2009, 08:58:38 PM » |
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I might. I was tentatively invited to a colleague's house, but the colleague has very apologetically said that they might have to go elsewhere for Thanksgiving. I assured her that this was no problem, and I could make arrangements for myself.
So if her "might have to" was a polite form of "will" then I'll be here for sure. If things get cleared up and their new house is painted in time (which is the circumstance; a house full of wet paint is not a good place to spend Thanksgiving) I might be there lots of the time. Otherwise, what the heck.
I might do a restaurant (quite a few are advertising that they're doing Thanksgiving stuff) or I might do my own at home. We'll see. In any case, I'll be around before and after whatever festivities I go to.
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« Reply #19 on: November 16, 2009, 09:14:39 PM » |
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I am going to Virginia for Christmas but not for Thanksgiving. It is really too far. Prylet is down there, too, and it sounds like they will all have a good time having turkey at my cousin's house.
Meanwhile, I am on the outs with Hedgepig.
I could probably finagle an invite out of a friend or colleague, but I think I'll stay home and sleep and have Taco Bell.
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« Reply #20 on: November 16, 2009, 10:16:36 PM » |
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Ever since I arrived in Tenureville, a wonderful colleague has held the Annual Widows and Orphans Thanksgiving Potluck Dinner. He and his wife host stray grad students, VAPs, and anyone who can't afford or doesn't want to travel. I think he is fabulous.
Dear SO and I stay at home, though, and I cook a turkey. A little one.
I'm likely to be checking in on this thread, too.
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« Reply #21 on: November 16, 2009, 10:30:22 PM » |
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Every TG in Paddington-ville I've spent with a friend/colleague and her family. It's usually her, her partner, their daughter, her parents, and perhaps three or four other people. They were out of town last year, so I spent it by myself. I really enjoyed it! I did make myself a TG dinner, but it was otherwise pretty much just another day - except with more pajama wearing and TV watching. They're back in town this year, so they've already invited me over and I've said yes. It'll be fun, and it's just one day. I'm also going to make my own TG dinner one or two days before, though, since besides the traditional turkey, their tastes can run a bit different from mine. And I like having whatever I want to eat/whatever I'm used to over the holidays.
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« Reply #22 on: November 17, 2009, 04:30:23 PM » |
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Other than my dissertation fieldwork year, this will be the first Thanksgiving not with my family. A colleague just invited me over so at least I'll get turkey but otherwise I'm looking forward to some peace and quiet. I am eyeing a local 'Turkey Trot' on Thursday morning - mostly to justify the second/third/tenth piece of pie. I'm also thinking about doing some Black Friday shopping for the first time ever. I just returned from a short trip and experienced an entire plane (puddle jumper from the middle of nowhere) of first time fliers. So there is a large part of me happy to avoid flying next week.
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« Reply #23 on: November 17, 2009, 05:18:52 PM » |
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I've spent the last couple of Thanksgivings alone. My family lives too far away (about an 8-hour drive). I could fly but it hardly seems worth it and I have to work on Monday anyway. Last year I spent the holiday trying out some Food Network recipes that I'd always wanted to make and I watched a couple of movies. So that's probably the plan for this year as well.
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« Reply #24 on: November 17, 2009, 07:51:41 PM » |
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I am in the so-called "Quad-State Area," (Southeastern Missouri, Southern Illinois, Southern Indiana, Western Kentucky). If any of y'all are in my neck of the woods, feel free to PM because my small group (MrP, adopted family member, and I) would be happy to add another to our group of geeky introverts. No turkey, though--we're veggie and fish-eating types.
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« Reply #25 on: November 17, 2009, 08:08:17 PM » |
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I am in the so-called "Quad-State Area," (Southeastern Missouri, Southern Illinois, Southern Indiana, Western Kentucky). If any of y'all are in my neck of the woods, feel free to PM because my small group (MrP, adopted family member, and I) would be happy to add another to our group of geeky introverts. No turkey, though--we're veggie and fish-eating types.
I remember living in that general area years ago. Around election year the television became almost unwatchable, because the TV stations would run ads for six different gubernatorial candidates (two for each of the nearest states), and a ridiculous number of ads for congress/senate campaigns as well. If I were closer I might take you up on it, though. |
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« Reply #26 on: November 17, 2009, 08:22:24 PM » |
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People, it's bliss. I've done lots of holidays alone and it's lovely. I usually will cook a piece of turkey and cranberry sauce and maybe a small pie, but I like that stuff and it's not hard. It's really the luxury of having time to cook a proper dinner and eat it. With a glass of milk, of course, because turkey with cranberry sauce can only properly be eaten with milk. (The alcohol's for later).
It's so great at this time of year to have a day off -- you don't even need to feel guilty about getting nothing done! You're supposed to be getting done! You can even take Black Friday off! Not to go shopping, god forbid, but to read a novel or watch those dvds or play on the fora. And then you STILL have a whole weekend in which to work! And NO student e-mails the entire time!
There is no greater gift in the world.
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« Reply #27 on: November 17, 2009, 08:26:05 PM » |
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great thread!
Well, for TG I'll be in a Foreign Land Where No TG Is Celebrated, giving an invited lecture;
however I am a big fan of the solitary TG and Xmas. Look at it this way:
--no creepy upsetting dysfunctional family gatherings
--no long annoying expensive trek to get there
--no emotional aftermath
---instead, a happy, restful, day or two to yourself to catch up on pleasure reading, house cleaning, personal paperwork, crafts/hobbies, movies, music, novels, meditation, whatever makes you really happy.
---sleeping late! riding a bike! Taking a walk! all at your own pace.
---reconnecting with your very own inner self
---course planning for the spring semester (aaargh)
---get-ahead on grading/finals prep/publication deadlines
---peace. quiet. solitary bliss. If you really like yourself and are comfortable in your own skin, this is a *great* way to spend a week off. If you are ill at ease in your own skin, now is a great chance to meet up with your inner truths in a private, quiet, peaceful way.
Holidays alone? I wouldn't have it any other way! (Long-distance SO will join me after xmas to go off to the Caribbean for a week's sunsoaked hoopla, though---I'm no nun.)
Also consider how arbitrary a calendar is: holiday celebrations are a kind of mass brainwashing, lemmings to the mall, etc. You are independent of that!
On preview: what magistra said, YESSSS.
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« Reply #28 on: November 17, 2009, 08:29:21 PM » |
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One caveat---a previous poster pointed out how well meaning people will inevitably ask you to join them (and then be offended if you don't say yes). I have my fabrications ready---oh yes, I do have plans, taking off! And you? I hate to lie, but the solitary holidays are so great I am willing to fib and evade a bit so as not to have to be the invitee at one of these very kindly gatherings.
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« Reply #29 on: November 17, 2009, 11:17:11 PM » |
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Well, you do have plans. You don't have to specify what they are.
I like to re-read Rest You Merry, a mystery by Charlotte MacLeod when I'm home alone at Christmas.
And yes, Not Fighting With Relatives is a fabulous reason to be alone. So is Not Fighting With Delta.
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