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« Reply #15 on: November 13, 2009, 04:14:22 PM » |
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It's standard procedure for most interviewees to bring a few snacks -- you never know what you'll be served when, if at all (go read some of the horror story threads). If you're vegan, I'd say that goes double. That way you won't starve if they take you somewhere with nothing you can eat on the menu.
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« Reply #16 on: November 13, 2009, 04:21:35 PM » |
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To second what Magistra said, ALWAYS carry easily consumed snacks, and some water, with you.
I don't drink alcohol or coffee either, and it's never been a problem.
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« Reply #17 on: November 13, 2009, 04:55:44 PM » |
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What if you're a secretively picky eater and you don't want to clue in the SC? Should you start a thousand-page thread on the topic here?
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« Reply #18 on: November 13, 2009, 05:03:14 PM » |
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What if you're a secretively picky eater and you don't want to clue in the SC? Should you start a thousand-page thread on the topic here?
Forsooth, why would you not want to do so? I would like a thread on whether balding men should buy wigs for their interviews. |
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« Reply #19 on: November 13, 2009, 05:34:12 PM » |
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What if you're a secretively picky eater and you don't want to clue in the SC? Should you start a thousand-page thread on the topic here?
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What if you're a secretively picky eater and you don't want to clue in the SC? Should you start a thousand-page thread on the topic here?
I LOVE the punchline to that thread. I love the suspense. Many of you have mentioned I should grow up and just eat. For your info, I will probably just suck it up and go. I certainly have "played nice" with meals before when I just didn't particularly cared for a food. However, with this cuisine, I am concerned about my VERY strong gag reflex reacting to the smell, taste, etc. I'm guessing spewing the food all over the search committee would not leave a good impression...but at lasting one.
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« Reply #21 on: November 13, 2009, 05:54:47 PM » |
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I'd order an Irish coffee and carry it around throughout the entire interview.
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« Reply #22 on: November 13, 2009, 06:46:13 PM » |
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Honest question here. Do people really offer bound choices in these situations, or any? "Do you want a beer, or a wine?" Don't most people just say, "What would you like?", to which "Seltzer and lime, thanks.", is all that needs to be said.
I grant that there may be unusual situations where someone orders that really fabulous vintage, or the campus abuts a heralded winery, but even so as simple positive statement, "I am fine, thanks." is really all that needs be said.
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« Reply #23 on: November 13, 2009, 07:19:24 PM » |
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Thanks again for all of the advice. It's been extremely helpful and reassuring!
oldadjunct - I asked because I've been given the "bound choices" several times in non-job-search-related situations. I've also had the "are you SURE all you want is WATER?" and have felt kind of weird about saying "yep."
FWIW, most of my grad school compatriots here at R1 U are fond of the sauce and some of them do think I'm a little strange for not sharing in their fondness.
I don't even bother telling people that I don't like coffee ... I just tuck my teabag into my travel mug and no one is the wiser. (wait, did that sound like a bizarre sex act?)
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« Reply #24 on: November 13, 2009, 08:40:07 PM » |
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Great advice all around. And now......what to do if you are vegan to boot? Ergh. I wasn't vegan when I interviewed, but I am now. It can be a challenge. And even before going vegan, I was lactose intolerant, so that a lot of the cheese/cream covered concoctions at hotels would wreck havoc on my system and I had to look around the menu for something tolerable. Also, I think people need to remember that a lot of meds require or suggest that you don't drink while taking them. I'm sure most people don't want to go into a big long thing about what they don't eat/drink and why and should just be able to say 'no, thank you' when asked if they want liquor. Same thing if people press you to eat a certain food. I didn't care if some place had the best pasta Alfredo on the planet, I couldn't eat it. A simple, 'That sounds great, but I think I'll have the twigs and leaves' ought to do. I agree with a poster upthread that if the dept thinks you're not for them because you don't drink, trust me, you're not for them. |
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« Reply #25 on: November 13, 2009, 09:08:15 PM » |
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... I just tuck my teabag into my travel mug and no one is the wiser. (wait, did that sound like a bizarre sex act?)
Yes, but then again so does your username. Thanks for all the vegan-related comments as well. I have been blessed with many understanding people here (we go out for LOTS of dinners) but it would be good to refresh my old strategies of polite refusal and re-directs! |
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« Reply #26 on: November 14, 2009, 12:36:42 AM » |
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I didn't drink when I was interviewing at my current job, and no one said anything at the time. It turned out later that everyone had decided (correctly) that I was pregnant (even though I wasn't showing)-- because, they said, "You seemed like the sort of person who WOULD drink...."
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« Reply #27 on: November 14, 2009, 09:38:07 AM » |
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"Hmm... do you know what I could really go for right now? A ginger ale."
They'll just think you want the ginger ale.
I drink - not excessively, but I probably enjoy it more than most. I was in tears when a SC took me to a brew pub and I had to stop at two. Deeeeeelicious beer - I could smell the hops roasting and it was torture to not order that third. When I was interviewing in California, they kept offering me wine after incredible wine and I wanted to try every bottle. I stopped at two, with regrets. I drink buckets of coffee, too.
But I also like ginger ale, and on some interviews, I ordered / accepted that. Nobody EVER asked about my drinking habits when I ordered ginger ale. Ever.
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« Reply #28 on: November 16, 2009, 07:55:58 AM » |
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Many people forego alcohol during interviews--even staunch alcoholics. It's just good judgement.
No one will care if you drink coffee or not.
It won't be until after you're hired and have the job that people will realize you're an uptight prig.
It's fine not to drink but to say I don't like the taste of alcohol just sounds ignorant. Some of those fruity drinks with champaign are damn tasty.
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« Reply #29 on: November 16, 2009, 09:35:26 AM » |
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It's fine not to drink but to say I don't like the taste of alcohol just sounds ignorant. Some of those fruity drinks with champaign are damn tasty.
Yes, cheers. It would probably be a mistake to draw attention to your choice of beverage in any context. Macaroon's suggestion ("I could really go for a ginger ale.") is a good way to handle it. If you go on and on about how you don't drink, you could offend (or annoy) those who do. |
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