|
treehouse
|
 |
« Reply #15 on: November 11, 2009, 04:22:28 PM » |
|
And marrying to share assets is a time-honored tradition as well.
"She's beautiful, she's rich, she's got HUGE ... tracts of land." "She's beautiful, she's rich, she's got FANTASTIC...benefits." |
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
|
alleyoxenfree
|
|
« Reply #16 on: November 11, 2009, 04:37:13 PM » |
|
Benefits and homeownership are poisted to make a comeback as desirable traits over washboard abs, ability to front a band, or cool anything in 2010.
|
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
|
t_r_b
|
|
« Reply #17 on: November 13, 2009, 12:43:56 AM » |
|
Exactly. Even statistics show that the cautious approach - long acquaintance, living together, etc. - actually leads more frequently to divorce.
Heh. That was certainly the case with us. We couldn't have been more cautious, and look where we are now. Blech. |
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
If you want to be zen, then stay in the freaking moment.
A lot of the people posting on this thread need to go out and get kohlrabi.
|
|
|
|
alleyoxenfree
|
|
« Reply #18 on: November 13, 2009, 01:13:57 AM » |
|
I took the six months from meeting to marrying. That didn't work either. Somewhere there must be a happy medium.
Somehow, "Honey, share my health insurance and get that hernia repair" sounds like romance to me. Sign of a caring, reliable person.
|
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
|
prytania3
|
|
« Reply #19 on: November 13, 2009, 11:18:23 AM » |
|
I married my first husband after a 3-week whirlwind romance. Ending: Divorce.
My second husband I had known almost all of my life. Ending: Divorce.
It's a crap shoot, and getting married for health benefits is as good a reason as any.
|
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
Clowns, I tell you. Clowns.
|
|
|
|
kedves
|
|
« Reply #20 on: November 13, 2009, 11:54:30 AM » |
|
Cohabitation prior to marriage, which is the dominant pattern for marriage in the U.S. now, ends more frequently in divorce not because of cohabiting itself but because of selection: people who choose to cohabit are different from people who don't. Those differences are good predictors of divorce--how traditional and religious the individuals are, for example. It's not a random process in which you can compare the effects of cohabiting vs. not cohabiting on reason marriage ends, because the people who do cohabit are different from the people who don't.
I don't know why anyone would have an opinion about the reasons other people get married.
|
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
|
veleda
|
|
« Reply #21 on: November 27, 2009, 09:37:55 PM » |
|
My SO and I lived together for 20 years (and had a child together), then had a civil ceremony when I got a job at a state college where they asked to see proof of marriage for insurance purposes. Shortly therafter we separated (the plans were already in the works when we got married). We are still legally married although we are no longer a couple. I will be getting on his insurance plan in about a month when I switch to adjuncting, sans insurance. We see this as a business arrangement that we have both benefited from.
This approach requires an amicable breakup, of course.
|
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
larryc
Hu hatin'
Distinguished Senior Member
Posts: 18,285
Eschew the hu.
|
|
« Reply #22 on: November 27, 2009, 09:53:19 PM » |
|
Exactly. My cousin and his wife divorced when her cancer got bad so he and the kids would not lose the house. |
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
|
embitteredhistorian
|
|
« Reply #23 on: November 27, 2009, 10:53:13 PM » |
|
I married my first husband after a 3-week whirlwind romance. Ending: Divorce.
My second husband I had known almost all of my life. Ending: Divorce.
It's a crap shoot, and getting married for health benefits is as good a reason as any.
Completely true. "Getting to know someone well before marriage" isn't insurance. People change. OT: If you're already dating someone, why not marry them for health insurance? After all, it's just a piece of paper. |
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
|
ucprof
|
|
« Reply #24 on: November 27, 2009, 11:12:26 PM » |
|
"She's beautiful, she's rich, she's got HUGE ... tracts of land."
I believe that's from Monty Python's Holy Grail - am I right? Not sure if it was just obvious to everyone else or over their heads. |
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
|
see_wolf
|
|
« Reply #25 on: November 28, 2009, 02:44:27 AM » |
|
I know two couples who married solely for health insurance... one lesbian couple, and one gay male couple. Woman A and Man A had health insurance - and Woman B and Man B did not. So Woman A and Man B married, and in the same ceremony, Woman B and Man A.
It's is an unusual arrangement, for sure, and I would assume violating some laws about insurance fraud. But until gay couples can marry - this is what they needed to do. 10 years later, they are all still healthy and happy, and actually only live a few houses away from each other.
|
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
|
embitteredhistorian
|
|
« Reply #26 on: November 28, 2009, 05:55:10 AM » |
|
I know two couples who married solely for health insurance... one lesbian couple, and one gay male couple. Woman A and Man A had health insurance - and Woman B and Man B did not. So Woman A and Man B married, and in the same ceremony, Woman B and Man A.
It's is an unusual arrangement, for sure, and I would assume violating some laws about insurance fraud. But until gay couples can marry - this is what they needed to do. 10 years later, they are all still healthy and happy, and actually only live a few houses away from each other.
If they don't make a sitcom out of this, I will lose all faith in humanity. |
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
|
see_wolf
|
|
« Reply #27 on: November 28, 2009, 09:11:17 AM » |
|
I know two couples who married solely for health insurance... one lesbian couple, and one gay male couple. Woman A and Man A had health insurance - and Woman B and Man B did not. So Woman A and Man B married, and in the same ceremony, Woman B and Man A.
It's is an unusual arrangement, for sure, and I would assume violating some laws about insurance fraud. But until gay couples can marry - this is what they needed to do. 10 years later, they are all still healthy and happy, and actually only live a few houses away from each other.
If they don't make a sitcom out of this, I will lose all faith in humanity. I know! It sure sounds like one. |
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
|
|
|
madhatter
We proudly present the fora's Least
Member-Moderator
Distinguished Senior Member
Posts: 5,673
Just killing time
|
|
« Reply #28 on: November 28, 2009, 10:52:01 PM » |
|
"She's beautiful, she's rich, she's got HUGE ... tracts of land."
I believe that's from Monty Python's Holy Grail - am I right? Not sure if it was just obvious to everyone else or over their heads. I think everyone got it, or just didn't care. |
|
|
|
|
Logged
|
"I may be an evil scientist, but it doesn't take a degree purchased from the Internet with your ex-wife's money to know how special and important you are to me." -- Dr. Doofenschmirtz
|
|
|
|
