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[skinnymargarita]

As an adjunct, I would normally not consider to walk with the faculty for commencement. My daughter is graduating with this class  next month and I am thinking it would be meaningful to me to be a part of the faculty as she graduates. She doesn't really care one way or the other - so she says. I do not teach in her discipline. Has anyone ever heard of this, or is this way off base?

[dellaroux]

I can sort of see it but it also seems like you might unintentionally upstage her.

She might just prefer you to be in the audience with the other parents and significant others, clapping for her from there.

It seems like it kind of makes it more about you than her, since you wouldn't normally be with the faculty during the ceremony, although that in itself is another issue for adjuncts overall.

Have you discussed it with others in the area where you work (in general terms, maybe, first) or with her? If there's precedent it might not be a big thing; if you have to do a lot of earthmoving to get there it might be a distraction.

Under any circumstances, congratulations to her for finishing and to you for seeing her through!

[skinnymargarita]

I can sort of see it but it also seems like you might unintentionally upstage her.

She might just prefer you to be in the audience with the other parents and significant others, clapping for her from there.

Have you discussed it with others in the area where you work (in general terms, maybe, first) or with her? If there's precedent it might not be a big thing; if you have to do a lot of earthmoving to get there it might be a distraction.

Under any circumstances, congratulations to her for finishing and to you for seeing her through!

I agree it may upstage her - sort of, and that is what I want to avoid. I got the email from the college regarding faculty list for commencement and thought it might be really neat for us both to participate, so I would just need to respond "yes." I do want to avoid getting any attention that should go to her. I could talk to the campus about whether or not other adjunct faculty participate.

Also, she doesn't feel a part of the campus or connected to the college as she has taken classes from a lot of Uni's. I thought it might make it seem more connected for her this way. I do want to tread carefully though as she is the youngest and follows a family with multiple achievements.

When I talked to her about it, she seems very "that's up to you who you want to sit with." Kinda lends itself to the family idea like you mentioned though. I am making a big deal of graduation, even though she says it is not a big deal. Party, photo, and the whole deal on the day of commencement. She wasn't going to walk, but now sounds like she will. I think it is important, makes the whole degree seem more real in some way.

[anthroid]

I can sort of see it but it also seems like you might unintentionally upstage her.

She might just prefer you to be in the audience with the other parents and significant others, clapping for her from there.

Have you discussed it with others in the area where you work (in general terms, maybe, first) or with her? If there's precedent it might not be a big thing; if you have to do a lot of earthmoving to get there it might be a distraction.

Under any circumstances, congratulations to her for finishing and to you for seeing her through!

I agree it may upstage her - sort of, and that is what I want to avoid. I got the email from the college regarding faculty list for commencement and thought it might be really neat for us both to participate, so I would just need to respond "yes." I do want to avoid getting any attention that should go to her. I could talk to the campus about whether or not other adjunct faculty participate.

Also, she doesn't feel a part of the campus or connected to the college as she has taken classes from a lot of Uni's. I thought it might make it seem more connected for her this way. I do want to tread carefully though as she is the youngest and follows a family with multiple achievements.

When I talked to her about it, she seems very "that's up to you who you want to sit with." Kinda lends itself to the family idea like you mentioned though. I am making a big deal of graduation, even though she says it is not a big deal. Party, photo, and the whole deal on the day of commencement. She wasn't going to walk, but now sounds like she will. I think it is important, makes the whole degree seem more real in some way.

Every place where I have worked has allowed staff or faculty to actually hand over the diploma case to offspring if they so desire.  Would that be a reasonable compromise (if your uni allows it)?

[gennimom]

This isn't quite the same thing, but we've had spouses (who were already PhDs) hood the other spouse who earned their degree in a different field.

[skinnymargarita]

I can sort of see it but it also seems like you might unintentionally upstage her.

She might just prefer you to be in the audience with the other parents and significant others, clapping for her from there.

Have you discussed it with others in the area where you work (in general terms, maybe, first) or with her? If there's precedent it might not be a big thing; if you have to do a lot of earthmoving to get there it might be a distraction.

Under any circumstances, congratulations to her for finishing and to you for seeing her through!

I agree it may upstage her - sort of, and that is what I want to avoid. I got the email from the college regarding faculty list for commencement and thought it might be really neat for us both to participate, so I would just need to respond "yes." I do want to avoid getting any attention that should go to her. I could talk to the campus about whether or not other adjunct faculty participate.

Also, she doesn't feel a part of the campus or connected to the college as she has taken classes from a lot of Uni's. I thought it might make it seem more connected for her this way. I do want to tread carefully though as she is the youngest and follows a family with multiple achievements.

When I talked to her about it, she seems very "that's up to you who you want to sit with." Kinda lends itself to the family idea like you mentioned though. I am making a big deal of graduation, even though she says it is not a big deal. Party, photo, and the whole deal on the day of commencement. She wasn't going to walk, but now sounds like she will. I think it is important, makes the whole degree seem more real in some way.

Every place where I have worked has allowed staff or faculty to actually hand over the diploma case to offspring if they so desire.  Would that be a reasonable compromise (if your uni allows it)?

Wow! That stikes me as a special moment. Let me look into that. Maybe this is going to work for the best after all?!

[anthroid]

I can sort of see it but it also seems like you might unintentionally upstage her.

She might just prefer you to be in the audience with the other parents and significant others, clapping for her from there.

Have you discussed it with others in the area where you work (in general terms, maybe, first) or with her? If there's precedent it might not be a big thing; if you have to do a lot of earthmoving to get there it might be a distraction.

Under any circumstances, congratulations to her for finishing and to you for seeing her through!

I agree it may upstage her - sort of, and that is what I want to avoid. I got the email from the college regarding faculty list for commencement and thought it might be really neat for us both to participate, so I would just need to respond "yes." I do want to avoid getting any attention that should go to her. I could talk to the campus about whether or not other adjunct faculty participate.

Also, she doesn't feel a part of the campus or connected to the college as she has taken classes from a lot of Uni's. I thought it might make it seem more connected for her this way. I do want to tread carefully though as she is the youngest and follows a family with multiple achievements.

When I talked to her about it, she seems very "that's up to you who you want to sit with." Kinda lends itself to the family idea like you mentioned though. I am making a big deal of graduation, even though she says it is not a big deal. Party, photo, and the whole deal on the day of commencement. She wasn't going to walk, but now sounds like she will. I think it is important, makes the whole degree seem more real in some way.

Every place where I have worked has allowed staff or faculty to actually hand over the diploma case to offspring if they so desire.  Would that be a reasonable compromise (if your uni allows it)?

Wow! That stikes me as a special moment. Let me look into that. Maybe this is going to work for the best after all?!

It is.  I always well up when a parent (staff, faculty, whomever) hands over the diploma.  It's very cool.  And if the parent happens to be in robes, well, buy stock in Kleenex, because Anthroid will buy out the local supply.

[skinnymargarita]

I can sort of see it but it also seems like you might unintentionally upstage her.

She might just prefer you to be in the audience with the other parents and significant others, clapping for her from there.

Have you discussed it with others in the area where you work (in general terms, maybe, first) or with her? If there's precedent it might not be a big thing; if you have to do a lot of earthmoving to get there it might be a distraction.

Under any circumstances, congratulations to her for finishing and to you for seeing her through!

I agree it may upstage her - sort of, and that is what I want to avoid. I got the email from the college regarding faculty list for commencement and thought it might be really neat for us both to participate, so I would just need to respond "yes." I do want to avoid getting any attention that should go to her. I could talk to the campus about whether or not other adjunct faculty participate.

Also, she doesn't feel a part of the campus or connected to the college as she has taken classes from a lot of Uni's. I thought it might make it seem more connected for her this way. I do want to tread carefully though as she is the youngest and follows a family with multiple achievements.

When I talked to her about it, she seems very "that's up to you who you want to sit with." Kinda lends itself to the family idea like you mentioned though. I am making a big deal of graduation, even though she says it is not a big deal. Party, photo, and the whole deal on the day of commencement. She wasn't going to walk, but now sounds like she will. I think it is important, makes the whole degree seem more real in some way.

Every place where I have worked has allowed staff or faculty to actually hand over the diploma case to offspring if they so desire.  Would that be a reasonable compromise (if your uni allows it)?

Wow! That stikes me as a special moment. Let me look into that. Maybe this is going to work for the best after all?!

It is.  I always well up when a parent (staff, faculty, whomever) hands over the diploma.  It's very cool.  And if the parent happens to be in robes, well, buy stock in Kleenex, because Anthroid will buy out the local supply.

Aww! I hope I can hold it together! What a special memory that will make. I hope this works out. Better get my hands on that robe!

[skinnymargarita]

Every place where I have worked has allowed staff or faculty to actually hand over the diploma case to offspring if they so desire.  Would that be a reasonable compromise (if your uni allows it)?
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Well, our grand plans have come to a skreeching halt. They reserve this honor for the President of the U. Bummer for me! Glad I didn't mention it to my daughter. Still need to decide if I am marching with the faculty. *Argh*

[clean]

Here is it the other way.  IF a faculty has a child graduating, instead of sitting with faculty, they can sit with the other parents.

What is the higher-more important- role?  I would think that you are a parent before you are a faculty member.

Further, we dont usually have adjuncts involved in graduations.  Since you dont usually sit with the faculty, why would you now?

[skinnymargarita]

Here is it the other way.  IF a faculty has a child graduating, instead of sitting with faculty, they can sit with the other parents.

What is the higher-more important- role?  I would think that you are a parent before you are a faculty member.

Further, we dont usually have adjuncts involved in graduations.  Since you dont usually sit with the faculty, why would you now?

I decided to do just that. I loved the idea of handing off the diploma case, but that doesn't work at my U. If other adjuncts were involved, it would be different. Makes sense to me!