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[pubtoboot]

I am currently enrolled in a graduate program and this is my second graduate degree.
So far life has been good - and I am particularly interested in one of the classes and am very keen on doing well and hoping that the professor would write good reference letters for me in future.
Recently he agreed to go over my seminar paper before I turn it in the end of the semester. I have also shown desire to enrol in a new class of his next semester.

Now, my book (based on my past thesis) just came out in october. I have a desire to send a complimentary copy to him. Do you think it's over the top? Is this even acceptable??

I am sorry for posing this question. I have been otu of grad school for some time and have little memory of the etiquette.

[hegemony]

Yes, I think it's over the top.  It could come off as bragging or arrogant.  "See, I'm not a lowly grad student, I have a book out."  If the book is in the professor's field, it would look as if you're trying to assert authority.  If it isn't, it's just a way of calling attention to yourself.  Better to call attention to yourself by doing good work in this program.  I think your instincts that it's inappropriate are on the mark.

[commcycle]

Over the top like Stallone.

[jacaranda_]

I agree:  too soon.  You've known this professor for . . . 2 months?  That's the sort of gesture you make with someone who has advised and mentored you for several years.  When it comes time for this prof. to write you a letter of recommendation, that would be a much better time to offer to loan the book -- or give it to him if you've developed a close relationship.

[lizzy]

Exactly. Send the book as a gift to someone who has read it and made constructive suggestions that improved it. When it comes time to ask for the letter, the book will be on your c.v, and you can indicate that you're more than willing to offer copies of all published materials.

[bread_pirate_naan]

or give it to him if you've developed a close relationship.

Perhaps a "closer" relationship, but not the sort of relationship that involves having a crush on him.