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« on: October 27, 2009, 10:06:38 PM » |
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This is a new problem for me. I don't normally have an interest in younger men, but i recently developed strong feeling for a younger guy, 10 years younger. OUCH !! I'm 52 and he's 42.
Background: I' ve known him about a year as a friend, he's divorced (about 1.5 years). He was dating someone else but in the past 2 weeks told me they had broken up.
We have fun together, can talk easily, and are at similar stages of life (both of us have teens, that can finally drive). So last week, I invited him to stay for dinner (he was fixing a window). We talked until after 9pm ! Time just flew by. But at the end of the evening, I felt uncomfortable .....b/c of the age gap.
Is this all in my head ?
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« Reply #1 on: October 27, 2009, 10:17:22 PM » |
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In a word: yes. Have fun.
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« Reply #2 on: October 27, 2009, 10:37:25 PM » |
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Well, according to the "half-your-age-plus-seven" rule he is easily above the the lower threshold of 33. Enjoy!
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« Reply #3 on: October 28, 2009, 01:06:35 AM » |
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Learn to spell "advice," and all will be well.
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« Reply #4 on: October 28, 2009, 01:14:57 AM » |
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Oh hell that isn't younger at all--you are in the same age range.
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« Reply #5 on: October 28, 2009, 05:59:30 AM » |
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Oh hell that isn't younger at all--you are in the same age range.
Maybe, but the BBC reports research saying that the age difference should go the other way: article. |
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« Reply #6 on: October 28, 2009, 06:05:07 AM » |
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If you need to mock date a younger man, my services are available.
Why aren't you posting on the LHC?
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« Reply #7 on: October 28, 2009, 06:33:37 AM » |
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What's the issue here?
I'm with Larry.
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« Reply #8 on: October 28, 2009, 06:36:01 AM » |
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I dated a younger man once, and then married him!
I don't think ten years difference is a big deal at all, it is all in your head. When I first dated my husband, who is nine years younger than me, I was pretty aware of the age difference "in theory." In practice, there was no difference, we shared similar interests, musical tastes, humor, etc. I almost let my concerns stop me from dating him, but a male friend said "Are you crazy, you like spending time with him, he doesn't care that you are older, when was the last time you enjoyed dating someone so much?" He was right and I am happy I didn't let my reservations ruin something that was good for me.
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« Reply #9 on: October 28, 2009, 07:04:20 AM » |
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I wouldn't call that an age gap.
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« Reply #10 on: October 28, 2009, 07:52:24 AM » |
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Thanks for the feedback!
of course, the next person to ask is him and I don't think he cares.
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« Reply #11 on: October 28, 2009, 08:10:33 AM » |
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Remember men die on average five years earlier than women...your just evening up the odds.
Quote from USA today,
"Men are catching up. American men now live just five years less, on average, than women, closing a gap that once approached eight years. Male life expectancy hit a record 75.2 in 2004, the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recently announced."
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« Reply #12 on: October 28, 2009, 10:14:42 AM » |
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Remember men die on average five years earlier than women...your just evening up the odds.
Quote from USA today,
"Men are catching up. American men now live just five years less, on average, than women, closing a gap that once approached eight years. Male life expectancy hit a record 75.2 in 2004, the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recently announced."
Ha! I tell my 9-years-younger hubs that he's super lucky, because I will die first and in the septugenarian set, cute widowers are much in demand. He'll have it made at the end... |
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« Reply #13 on: October 28, 2009, 10:20:20 AM » |
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Yep--that is not really an age gap. No one would BLINK if a 52-year-old man was dating a 42-year-old woman.
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« Reply #14 on: October 28, 2009, 10:25:09 AM » |
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Yep--that is not really an age gap. No one would BLINK if a 52-year-old man was dating a 42-year-old woman.
I thought this thread was going to be about a spry 22 year old. |
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