madhatter
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« Reply #195 on: November 12, 2009, 01:53:44 PM » |
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I think Polly and Marigolds have it right. There are many well-intentioned posts here, but the sad reality is that we all have to make and learn from our own relationship mistakes, in our own time. Good luck.
I think your post about condoms was even more important. I have an entire library of PSAs within me. |
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bread_pirate_naan
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« Reply #196 on: November 12, 2009, 02:05:32 PM » |
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I think Polly and Marigolds have it right. There are many well-intentioned posts here, but the sad reality is that we all have to make and learn from our own relationship mistakes, in our own time. Good luck.
I think your post about condoms was even more important. I have an entire library of PSAs within me. I get that sense, in a good way. Your thoughts/posts are appreciated and enjoyed. <Maybe not the nasty one-offs about me, but yours actually get to me, which means I think well enough of you to say so.> |
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In unrelated news, I'd like a slice of cake. --corny / It will go great. --jackalope
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madhatter
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« Reply #197 on: November 12, 2009, 02:45:17 PM » |
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Why, thank you. Most kind.
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"I may be an evil scientist, but it doesn't take a degree purchased from the Internet with your ex-wife's money to know how special and important you are to me." -- Dr. Doofenschmirtz
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« Reply #198 on: November 12, 2009, 05:21:35 PM » |
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*winces at the sight of two emotionally damaged magnets smacking together*
This is really interesting stratus. I think of all the people consistently in this thread, you are the only one who approaches it from a completely depersonalized place. Translation: <winces at the indeterminate object hiding in plain sight>I want to clarify something: I think most of us have some damage, but I worry these two are sticking together because of their emotional Achilles' heels. That's my opinion. And, for me, it's tough to watch. BUT, I'm not Mischt. I don't know what will work or not work for Mischt. So I'm just going to wish Mischt the best. |
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« Reply #199 on: December 21, 2009, 06:53:40 AM » |
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Hi there guys,
I just wanted to give you an update since there has been a surprising and delightful development that ends this saga.
I have been back in my home city now for about 6 weeks and once I got here I started seeing an old friend from undergraduate days, who I have seen every so often in the last few years. To make a long story short: We fell head over heels in love about 2 weeks ago now and are so inseparable I can hardly believe it. I've only felt this once before in my life and it is qualitatively miles apart from what I felt for my ex. I saw my daft ex-long-distance partner last weekend to tell him it was definitely and finally over. He was extremely remorseful and sad, not wanting to believe it was finished (it so is!) but we managed to part on good terms and I feel like all the blocks have fallen into place in a very very surprising way, but in one that makes me feel like all that went on this fall makes sense in retrospect. I wouldn't have been the one to break up for someone else, although my new partner and I are now wondering how it is that it took us 15 years to kiss for the first time...
So, as far as I am concerned, all's well that ends well. I just have to keep working on that book!!
Let me say thanks again to you for all of your comments (which I took very seriously and were great food for thought for me) back when I didn't really know what to do next.
Happy holidays to all of you,
Mischt
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« Reply #200 on: December 21, 2009, 06:57:43 AM » |
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Congratulations Mischt! I am pleased to hear you have moved on. Happy holidays to you too.
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« Reply #201 on: December 21, 2009, 08:26:35 AM » |
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Thanks for the update, Mischt, and I'm thrilled to read that you are now in a much better situation.
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You can never know everything, and part of what you do know will always be wrong. Perhaps even the most important part. A portion of wisdom lies in knowing this. A portion of courage lies in going on anyway.
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« Reply #202 on: December 21, 2009, 09:15:43 AM » |
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Very glad for you Mischt.
Happy Holidays, and thank you for the update!
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« Reply #203 on: December 21, 2009, 10:29:28 AM » |
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It is like that classic holiday song, "All I Want for Christmas is Some Rebound Sex."
Happy Holiday!
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« Reply #204 on: December 21, 2009, 10:32:47 AM » |
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Good luck! Sometimes a rebound relationship is what you need to shock your system.
But what's this about "ending well"? It's life. It's not over yet.
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"I may be an evil scientist, but it doesn't take a degree purchased from the Internet with your ex-wife's money to know how special and important you are to me." -- Dr. Doofenschmirtz
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« Reply #205 on: December 21, 2009, 11:00:59 AM » |
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I'm glad you have found a relationship that makes you happier. Like madhatter says, life is full of twists and turns, but stepping away from Mr. Wandering Affections was a step in the right direction. Happy Holidays, and best wishes for a Happy New Year to you!
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« Reply #206 on: December 21, 2009, 11:54:30 AM » |
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I'm happy you have moved on with your life and have found some joy. Just don't make any more big decisions for awhile and just enjoy the time/love in your new relationship. Happy Holidays!
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« Reply #207 on: December 21, 2009, 02:13:48 PM » |
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But what's this about "ending well"? It's life. It's not over yet.
Agreed. Congrats, though! |
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*waving tiny zombie flags* Correct, as usual, TZ. That's because you are not Dude. TZ, however, is Dude. TZ is my favorite. |
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« Reply #208 on: December 21, 2009, 03:20:39 PM » |
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I've only felt this once before in my life and it is qualitatively miles apart
So happy for you! What a gift for yourself and your love. All the best to you both. |
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In unrelated news, I'd like a slice of cake. --corny / It will go great. --jackalope
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« Reply #209 on: December 21, 2009, 05:54:15 PM » |
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Mischt, I've been lurking in this thread for a while now, and I'm really happy to read your latest update. I always wanted to say that you should get rid of your long distance partner because of the crappy way he treated you, but a lot of other forumites already said it, so I just stayed quiet. So to find out that you're in a wonderful new relationship now is good news. I wish you the best!
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