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Please help : very long : is he autistic?


Pending diagnosis by neurologist.  Have evaluation in  10 days by state

Twin boy 21 months old :bilingual  :Twin sister dominant and needs lot of attention

Twin daughter is cute and more social then the boy. So, all visitors pick her up all the time than him.
He is a shy guy.


Things of concern for autism for my twin boy
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Doesn't respond to his name
has eye contact when he wants
does't point (Today, we blew some bubbles and he was pointing to the bubbles to pop them)
He is fasinated by alphabet and numbers and tries to identify/recite them most ofthe time


he walked by 1 and crawled by 5 moths

He is fasinated by alphabet and numbers and tries to identify/recite them most ofthe time in the house/malls , etc
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Could the following be the reasons
1.Twin competition
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My twin daughter tries to be more dominat. Both my kids kow they all capital letters and numbers, some colors ad shapes
Neighbour's family visited us oneday. They were writing the letters for my daughter to identify.
As and when she was answering them, they were thrilled ad were appreciating her a lot.
he tried to join thm but was pushed by her in front of all of us. I know he was sad.
Did it affect him and his confidenc?
Is that why he is repeating the numbr and color for appreciation?

2. Env
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whole of first year, we did not take them out a lot( winter ad too young)
This is the first summer I amd taking them out on a regular basis.  To engage them during winter, I played DVDS a lot (brainy baby ovr and over).

Also, I startd takig them down the stairs (we live on third floor in out bld). To make it easy for me with both of them,
I would encourage tem to count the stairs.
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Also, the first I them in the swing (park), I swung them and said   numbrs (1..2...3) to practise their number.

So, now whenever we walk the stair on the swing he keeps saying his numbers.
Even during out walks on the road, I would say rhymes or numbers to engage.




Imagination
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normally has milk in his sippy cut. 
Today we gave him chocolate pediasure, he looked at it like what is the color diff and drank it.


normally likes to put the straps of the high chair by himself on both sides. he likes it mor like a game
somedays he tries it by standing on the floor.
This particular day, he straped 1 side ad was having a tough time on th othr side,
so he climbed up and sat on the high chair all by himself and put the other side


We take him out for a walk and stuff.
Enjoys the whole time and the moment he says the gate of our house he doesn't want to go in

When I get dressed to go out , he wants me to pick him

When I say come to mamma, he comes to me runnig witha huge smile on his face

Today, we blew some bubbles and he was pointing to the bubbles to break themnnn

Vocabulory
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Identifies and says
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banana
orange
apple
barney
ball


says
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hi  waves bye-bye hello barney
pac in native lang is milk(pal)

said these words once in the last 2-3 days.Not sure if they are meaning ful words
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swing slide go
baby pac
red clock sky duck truck


identifies 95% of capital letters
knows and identifies 1-10 ( 7 as seventeen) and can say  till 20
identifies few shapes ( tri, rec, oval, heart, circle) sometimes crescent
identife red, purple and orange colors
recites rhymes 1. twinkle
               2. itsy bitsy oder
               3. Five litle monkeys
               4. Johnny Jonny
               5. can finish some natice lanhaage songs [ 1- 10 in telugu ]
Knows 95% of ABCD song

Knows days and months

sibling comptitiion:
when sitting on LAP
when playing


likes books === turns pages of the book

When I say " I love you", says barney

TV
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1. change dvd, switch off tv,
2. engrossed in watching his fav dvds
3. smiles when kids in tv smiles, laughs when he finds it funny,
4. nudges with the remote to start the dvd,

CAR
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listening to music in car. giggles when kids in the the lullaby dvd giggle

Loves ABCD song


Eating
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 eats wih hand, fork and spoon
likes spegatti
does not sit in high chair now
 latch

playing
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Chase game runs, kicks ball, slides realy well, climbs monkey bar, tries to establish eye contact with other kids in the park

When we tickle his tummy and suff, laughs a lot and has great eye contact,
Enjoys swing
Plays and fights well  his twin sister
can repeat basketball & tennis plays & uses phone
climbs stairs on his own using rails
Moves from one toy to another.
He plays well with thetoys . Some turns the wheels. for less than 10secs and moves on.

recognitioin:
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Very happy seeing his dad home
looing at photo - he looks at people in the picture (did this once)


bathing
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Tries to bath himself with the mug


Others:
sometimes seen grindling teeth [ Mom's bro & sis were grinding teeth ]


health:
rashes
want to nibble on blanket, paper(tissue), towel
Enjoyed rides in the beach
Was a little hesisant to walk in the sand ( first time thhis year)


Could he be autistic? very scared

[nowheresville]

Probably no one here is qualified to answer your post, but I am sure many are wishing you the best in whatever happens. If you look at other threads there about autism, you'll see that even in the case where there is a diagnosis, it is not the end of the world. Best.

[collegekidsmom]

The doctor will tell you. People on this forum cannot.

[notaprof]

As the other two people have said, people here cannot diagnose your son.  Our thoughts are with you as you wait for the chance to see the doctor and have him evaluated.  But I will say that boys are often slower to develop than girls so it wouldn't be unusual for a twin girl to do things and develop much earlier than a twin boy.

Best wishes.

[jackit]

Finding the right physician or psychologist can be difficult.  In my experience, typical neurologists were not always helpful.  There are typically autism list servers on yahoo that are focused on different geographical regions.  If you can find other parents of autistic children in your region you can find out who they typically go to for diagnosis.  My son was originally misdiagnosed/undiagnosed by a pediatric neurologist, whereas the speech pathologist picked up on him being PDD-NOS right away.  Hence, the words of caution.  

And no, by all means do not worry that there is something you have done (#2) that is impeding development.