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[chartreaux]

newgrad09 - I'm dying to learn how your crisis was resolved. I swear, as I was reading your posts, it might as well been me writing them. I was in a similar situation a few months ago, except the SO didn't get any TT offers. I got a TT offer and a research position (non TT) for him at a mediocre school, but they wanted me to accept the offer before I even interviewed at my Big Cheese schools.

I didn't want to "get stuck" at a mediocre school in an equally mediocre location and took my chances. Got other offers, but none for him and not at my top choice schools. The SO got laid off from his industry job and took another on the other side of the country, and I'm doing postdoc work until the next hiring cycle, where hopefully I'll be attractive enough to get us positions at a more prestigious school.

Job prospects look bad and my SO is 3000 miles away. I'm even starting to wonder if I want that Big Cheese TT position all that bad anymore, or maybe that's the loneliness talking....

[1233312]

Old thread, but the debate was really interesting. My internal question was always something along the lines of - couldn't you try to calculate how much money you'd spend on commuting to see one another and maintaining separate homes and then spend this money out of pocket on RAs and TAs? Because let's face it, this is going to be at least $1K/month assuming a city with reasonable rent, which could be traded for around 20 RA hours/week.

Maybe a good idea to ask if that would be ok with the department, but if I were thinking like an economist, that's what I'd start asking myself.