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[compdoc]

greyscale, I totally get that.

It's good that you have things that keep you occupied when you can't be with your guy. Is there anything he is interested in that he could do in new city?

Even if it's just scouting out the restaurants...

[greyscale]

Well, he did develop a new interest in yoga, which is perfect.

Tomorrow is our 14th anniversary (from when we started dating). Made a skype date to talk [virtually] face to face... we don't do that nearly often enough.

[pats12]

Just found this thread--

We have about a quarter of our faculty doing LDRs, mostly because we are a rural SLAC and most bigger cities are 2+ hours away. Some of our faculty have partnered up and rented houses together and it seems to be working okay--these use the house during the week and most of them scatter on the weekends. I should mention that they are all in different departments and don't see each other at work so it isn't a problem of too much togetherness as far as I can see. Seems to save on bills too.

[westcoastgirl]

It's looking more and more like our two body problem will not be solved this round, though we had high hopes that the end might be near. We have a lull in the storm since he has an NEH grant next year and he'll go on the market again this fall applying near-ish by (able to commute on weekends). It's still disappointing and scary. We are both the types that thrive in LDRs (which has really surprised me). We talk all day and skype at night for at least an hour. I think we talk more in our LDR than we do when we are together. And we rarely fight (not the case at home). We have a young child though and that's what we are worried about. We are looking at another eight years of this.

Good vibes to everyone.

[compdoc]

Oh, my, westcoastgirl... 8 years! I am barely making 8 months. Mycompguy is coming to town tomorrow and won't leave till Thursday. I am thrilled.

[southerntransplant]

Our present time frame is 2-5 years. Probably more like 5. STpouse is closer to the Grandtransplantlets now than she was here in Swelterville. Five years will set them firmly in the pre-angsty-teen years, which would then be a good time to come back home. There are a couple of other reasons for the 5 year marker, but in short, it will be a good time point.

I'm heading over there this weekend.

[cliointampa]

Well I am trying to figure out if I should take a position 200+ miles away when my sig other wants to stay put.  Very confusing because he wants me to take it but doesn't want to move.  This kind of decision is really hard. It seems like I have to choose: my career or my guy.  It's so unfair. 

[compdoc]

cliointampa, Have you asked why he thinks you should take it? Have you asked how he imagines the relationship working out long distance?

You do have a choice. That is more than a lot of academics. It does bite that those two things seem to be your choice.

[compdoc]

I've been blue this week and didn't really know why.

Then mycompguy called and suggested we meet in the middle for this weekend. YEESS!!! That's what was wrong. I actually managed to take a shower without forcing myself into the bathroom this morning.

[greyscale]

This week I got a haircut (only my third professional cut ever) and I'm choosing new glasses. Texting photos to my boyfriend as I go is making it feel almost like he's here. He has great taste and he's always supportive of me changing my appearance... awwwww.

Compdoc, isn't it funny how we can be down without understanding why? So glad your guy thought of that solution.

[compdoc]

greyscale, I like the idea of texting photos.

Mycompguy is a great photographer, so my phone photos wouldn't be perfect, but, yes, that would be a great way to do things, especially when I am trying to figure out whether I should buy something (in clothes) or not. He has great taste, too.

I admit that my taste leans to the frumpy side. That's not attractive on anyone, even though I like it...

We had a great time at our meet in the middle location. I got some great boots and two cute dresses at the outlet mall we went to. (We went looking for boots. The dresses were because I didn't bring anything fancy for Sat night, just Friday night.)

[southerntransplant]

Instead of me heading over there, STpouse came over here a couple of weekends ago. Since I had travel last week, she volunteered to take Catahoula Mix back with her, and bring her back here next weekend, rather than having me spring for dogsitting ($24 a day).

Catahoula Mix is a sweet girl but a bit of a sneak and too smart for her own good. She managed to find a way out of the fenced-in area behind STpouse's place, but didn't know where to go and ended up sitting on the front steps.

Unfortunately, she's also teaching Southern Dane this behavior. This is most un-good because Southern Dane is a gorgeous brindle Great Dane and would make an attractive dognapping target. (This isn't unusual - a Komondor we had was stolen right from our yard.) She's also far more naive and easily influenced than Catahoula Mix.

Hopefully Catahoula Mix won't react too adversely to being tied out on a long piece of airline cable, because that's her fate until she comes back here.

[compdoc]

southerntransplant, I had to cable my beagle because she climbed right over the fence and ran right out to smell the high-traffic road the house sits on... I'm working on getting a higher fence.

This weekend is my birthday, but mycompguy wasn't planning on coming to visit. His best friend (since high school) is coming in to Old City for their high school reunion. I have a conference, anyway, but it's kind of a bummer...

Good thing, though, I get to go see one of my best friends in Conference City and will spend the evening of my birthday with her.

[southerntransplant]

Well, STpouse was here for two days (barely). She was going to hang around today and head back tomorrow, but a sudden deadline made her decide to leave today. She gave me back Catahoula Mix, whom she had cared for while I was gone on travel last week. Now Catahoula Mix is moping and missing Southern Dane. It's quite a sight.

We're going to head over there for spring break next week.

[compdoc]

southerntransplant, I am sorry STspouse decided she needed to go home for the deadline. That happened to us a couple of times too. Once it was me and once mycompguy. I was disappointed when it was him, busy when it was me.

Glad you got Catahoula Mix back. Sorry both of you are missing the other half of your family.

On my birthday mycompguy said that he will be moving to New Tt-town next week! The date had been getting moved back and back and back. But now... We will be very busy over the spring break holiday getting stuff packed up.