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« Reply #120 on: July 29, 2009, 07:23:14 PM » |
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alley, no problem - you are welcome. The thing I used to find hardest was having to seem to climb down from a position I'd taken up for good reasons, in order to follow orders and thereby do something ethically reprehensible. It really used to stick in my craw, and I still feel some anger about the actions I took. I am trying very hard to let go of it all, and not to expend any more emotional energy on chewing over the past; I certainly wasted far too much emotional energy in being angry - unproductively, I should add - at the sadist in my former department.
You're right to focus on your own goals and to protect your time and sanity as best you can. Distance really does work towards this end - I always found the temptation to argue and thereby inflame the situation very difficult to resist, and now I wish I'd handled matters much more cleverly.
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« Reply #121 on: July 31, 2009, 07:45:05 PM » |
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It is difficult when they sort of relentlessly pursue you, because they can, to do the dirty work that's truly dirty, but they can order you to do it or you're "insubordinate." There are also endless demands that make it almost impossible to have a personal life because you're being expected to be at their beck and call. They enjoy ensuring that your personal life is disrupted - to the point that I no longer let them know if I have any plans. I just don't pick up the phone because it is easier to deal with being reamed out for unavailability and how I'm not doing the job and not dedicated enough than to deal with their head games of "I can make you do this, and do it on your supposedly off hours."
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der_gadfly
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« Reply #122 on: August 01, 2009, 10:04:02 AM » |
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Treatment for sadistic emails: Hit REPLY, type in the following: "Please Elaborate", Continue as necessary until you have a solid case for harassment that will stand up to Board of Trustee scrutiny.
Alternative: sneak into their office and glue their pencils together.
Or you can take the high road, as suggested, but that is not nearly as much fun as playing passive-aggressive and messing around with an idiot who desperately needs a good thrashing. my two cents.
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« Reply #123 on: August 04, 2009, 06:34:08 PM » |
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The "please elaborate" strikes me as an excellent tactic in the sense that this guy seems hellbent on destruction of the department and of himself. While avoiding him, I am making certain to get all his requests in writing, get him on the record with his demands, and asking him to be specific - to elaborate. Making him make all the decisions, which he actually wants to make anyway, seems to be helping protect me, because now I can disavow the decision. He wants troops who will follow his orders and now he's getting it. No more innovation, no more going the extra mile, and my day is opening up!
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« Reply #124 on: August 19, 2009, 11:44:46 AM » |
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I use the 'please elaborate' tactic sparingly, and have found that after a few go-rounds, the perpetrator usually gets the hint that I am going to outlast hu.....
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« Reply #125 on: August 20, 2009, 10:40:04 PM » |
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I'm kissing Sadistic Boss goodbye - got a one-year position elsewhere! Yahoo!
He was as big a jerk as possible when I resigned, to the point that I wish I'd just not shown up to work again. Sometimes the downside of trying to conduct yourself professionally and leave in the way you'd be proud of is.....you get kicked a little more. At least it will be an everlasting reminder of why I went. Thank you, one and all, for your moral support here, and for good ideas that I will take into my next interactions.
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« Reply #126 on: August 24, 2009, 10:58:48 PM » |
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Congratulations, alley! Best of luck for a happy time in your new job.
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« Reply #127 on: September 19, 2009, 02:56:38 PM » |
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There's an interesting discussion going on about what happens when the VAP term runs out and there aren't any new jobs available. You can find it here: http://chronicle.com/forums/index.php/topic,63099.0.htmlI hope some of you will consider chiming in. This seems to be an increasingly salient question.
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« Reply #128 on: October 10, 2009, 10:19:06 AM » |
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Alley, belated congratulations! And I hope the new job is heavenly.
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« Reply #129 on: October 11, 2009, 12:17:56 AM » |
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Wow, one of my first posts was on this thread (page 2). I posted about my friend, Dr. Finally, who had landed a 3 year VAP at a good school after taking a very long time to complete a humanities Ph.D. As expected, his VAP ran out and he was sent packing. He had no permanent offers, and so he is back to picking up what adjunct work he can.
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« Reply #130 on: October 11, 2009, 11:23:34 AM » |
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alley, belated congratulations and hope the new job is going superbly well!
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« Reply #131 on: October 12, 2009, 09:46:02 PM » |
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Thank you, porcupine, I really enjoy the students here and am only sad that it's a temporary Band-aid. The bigger issue is to find a permanent job and increasingly it seems that will not be in teaching. I am sending out applications but simultaneously looking at administrative jobs and jobs outside academia. It's hard not to thinking about the whole country and all this wasted productivity, talented people spending all their time on yet another CV or resume instead of contributing to a company or school's bottom line. To pick up on the headline about presidents' pay, it certainly seems as though you could cut it in half, employ 10 more faculty and staff members and, if you made judicious decisions about those things, get much more bang for the buck. We need to be questioning what we have received for these staggering salaries. But I digress.....How are others finding the question of what to do when the VAP runs out?
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