Congrats, pandamonium!
Just to put some perspective on things for you, sinece you are a self-identified "high strung" person: Most of your Ph.D. program will seem like Huge, gigantic, terrifying mountains in front of you, but once you have finished, they will seem more like hills.
I dreaded my comps. Now I laugh that I even worried.
Thank you :) I find that reading posts by fellow forumites is very helpful in terms of gaining perspective and learning tips (e.g. zealous alcohol consumption as a tool to combat stress, check plus (half kidding)).
It is in a department's best interest to nominate students most likely to accept an offer of admission. If a fellowship is offered to a budding star chooses another program, that money is not available to fund to another student.
this is exactly how we do things in my university. We nominate our top students for one of a couple of fellowships. We will get the fellowship automatically if the student accepts. But, if the student turns it down we lose the student and the fellowship. So, we usually talk with the student informally to find out whether they are likely to come to our program.
This would be great if true. I was under the impression that fellowship nomination does not mean guaranteed funding, at least from reading last year's admissions-related posts with regard to funding offers (4/15 being the magical deadline). I will be able to talk to "my" (dare I finally use this possessive adjective?) professor in a week or so, but it would be nice to know more about this strange process beforehand because I am still a total wimp when it comes to asking about/for money. Yes, yes... I'll need to snap out of that mindset in short order if I want to avoid a diet limited to instant ramen.
Thanks to everyone again for the posts, and good luck to those of you waiting to hear back.
rysal