gbird
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« on: December 11, 2007, 12:46:22 AM » |
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So, I have a crush on a professor. I'm smart enough, of course, that I will never in a million years consciously act on it. But what do I do? Avoid the prof even though they work on something I want to, that no one else does? Ride it out and assume it'll go away?
What I hate is that it makes me self-conscious. I'm scared of somehow (I don't see how, exactly) revealing this, and that fear makes me feel like I'm acting unnaturally, which increases the anxiety about letting it slip...
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dr_stones
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пошлите законоведами пушки и деньг
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« Reply #1 on: December 11, 2007, 06:45:09 AM » |
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Hmmmm . . .
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"History does not repeat itself, but it does rhyme." Samuel "Steroid Free" Clemens
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« Reply #2 on: December 11, 2007, 07:49:34 AM » |
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So, I have a crush on a professor. I'm smart enough, of course, that I will never in a million years consciously act on it. But what do I do? Avoid the prof even though they work on something I want to, that no one else does? Ride it out and assume it'll go away?
What I hate is that it makes me self-conscious. I'm scared of somehow (I don't see how, exactly) revealing this, and that fear makes me feel like I'm acting unnaturally, which increases the anxiety about letting it slip...
Assuming your question is serious (which I doubt, but anyway)... What are you worried about "accidentally" doing? Jumping on top of this professor in a meeting? Accidentally massaging yourself? You're not going to do any of this. If you're in graduate school, you know this intellectually and therefore it's not worth belaboring. If you're an undergrad, well, it's time to learn. The crush you have will go away. Your professor, if like most profs, is too busy to pay attention to any awkwardness that you yourself feel is so obvious. If hu does notice, it's probably awkward for hu and therefore hu will willfully ignore it. So long as you're not making lewd jokes or accidentally leaving articles of clothing in hu's office, it's a non-issue. I say all of this as someone who works in a department where a number of the faculty are young, good-looking, and single. Don't let any teenage fantasies or embarrassing sex dreams sway you from the fact that this is school, and you'll be there for a couple of years. Definitely just work with the person and get over it. In a few weeks, you'll have a new crush or the person will piss you off somehow, thus squelching your fiery passions. |
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« Last Edit: December 11, 2007, 07:50:53 AM by the_scene »
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Well, some posters were being naughty here.
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« Reply #3 on: December 11, 2007, 09:58:56 AM » |
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I say all of this as someone who works in a department where a number of the faculty are young, good-looking, and single. Don't let any teenage fantasies or embarrassing sex dreams
I want to be the_scene, I am having all the wrong dreams. To flashmob or not? |
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also fills the typical New Yorker reader with a warm feeling of bemused superiority.
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« Reply #4 on: December 11, 2007, 10:03:59 AM » |
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I want to be the_scene, I am having all the wrong dreams.
All my sex dreams are about Derrida... |
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« Reply #5 on: December 11, 2007, 10:08:05 AM » |
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I want to be the_scene, I am having all the wrong dreams.
All my sex dreams are about Derrida... I am the_scene. |
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also fills the typical New Yorker reader with a warm feeling of bemused superiority.
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« Reply #6 on: December 11, 2007, 10:39:37 AM » |
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I am the_scene.
Without you, I am nothing. |
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« Reply #7 on: December 11, 2007, 10:44:43 AM » |
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I am the_scene.
Without you, I am nothing. I am nuthing, without ewe. |
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also fills the typical New Yorker reader with a warm feeling of bemused superiority.
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« Reply #8 on: December 11, 2007, 11:02:10 AM » |
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I am nuthing, without ewe.
Yew? Arrr! Nothing. Without eye. |
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« Reply #9 on: December 11, 2007, 11:06:02 AM » |
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Yew? Arrr! Nothing. Without eye.
Aye matey, youse complete we. |
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also fills the typical New Yorker reader with a warm feeling of bemused superiority.
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larryc
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Eschew the hu.
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« Reply #10 on: December 11, 2007, 11:31:54 AM » |
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Gbird, I want to apologize for the foolish frivolity of my fellow academics who are derailing your thread.
Make a video of yourself prancing about in your underwear and singing about your love for Dr. X, modeled on the Obama Girl video. Post it on YouTube and come back here and give us the link. You will become hugely famous and can drop out of school altogether.
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« Reply #11 on: December 11, 2007, 11:41:29 AM » |
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Gbird, I want to apologize for the foolish frivolity of my fellow academics who are derailing your thread.
Make a video of yourself prancing about in your underwear and singing about your love for Dr. X, modeled on the Obama Girl video. Post it on YouTube and come back here and give us the link. You will become hugely famous and can drop out of school altogether.
Larryc, this is very funny. |
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« Reply #12 on: December 11, 2007, 11:56:07 AM » |
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I don't believe I ever had a student have a crush on me (at least that I know of). Should I feel bad about that? Is there something wrong with me? Now I feel depressed.
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« Reply #13 on: December 11, 2007, 01:20:36 PM » |
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I say just forget it... your life will move on, and you'll probably find yourself wondering in a few years what you ever saw in this person...if you even remember this person
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maude_lebowski
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« Reply #14 on: December 11, 2007, 02:32:24 PM » |
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Do it the old fashioned way. Write the prof a scented, secret admirer letter declaring your feelings. You could adopt a secret identity for your secret admiration. It's a bit on the undergraduate side, but you will feel better after you get it out of your system. Then you can become paranoid about being found out.
I hope the prof is a redhead, mine was. He didn't get tenure. :(
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Love me.
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