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[boogaloo]

Phaddish, for what it's worth, contemporary just about slayed me some time back in a post where I was asking for advise about applying to grad school.  I don't even remember what it was about anymore except that contemporary's comments essentially told me that though I 'seemed nice' (ouch), the style of my post showed that I probably was too immature for grad school, probably wasn't serious, and some other stinging things.  At the time I slunk away, duly chastised.

What I'm saying is, it's just contemporary's way.  I am just waiting to be able to post an update once I'm accepted to my program of choice with a full assistanceship.

[contemporary_]

Boogaloo, you must know that effervescent punctuation (!!!) in your question about essay writing is the fora equivalent of using gold stars, colored paper and glitter for one's SOP.

You didn't then.

[t_r_b]

I'm really not sure I deserve the personal attack. 

I'm not really sure why you think you've been attacked. There is a difference between being blunt and attacking. Understanding that difference is important if you want a successful career in academia.

[soprano]

Phaddish,

I'm sorry to hear that you've run into this problem.  It is hard to see someone being rewarded for doing the wrong thing and also to be punished when you do the right thing.  I'd echo what others said, that you probably can't do much about it from where you sit.  Academia, like any other workplace, has unfair people, unfair treatment.  There is a lot of lofty talk, but basically, like any other workplace, things boil down to who is liked, who is feared, etc. 

Take the high road.  I'd limit my own interactions with this professor other than the normal pleasantries.  I wouldn't mention this again to my friend or to anyone else.  I'd concentrate on keeping my own nose clean, maintaining good relationships with reputable people, so that you'll be able to do something about this crap when you get to where you are going.

And for what its worth; I've not been in academia long, but I have been in the workworld for a while.  Often (but not always) what goes around tends to come around.  It might take many years, but I've seen it happen time and again.  When you torque off people indescriminantly, it has a tendency to come back to bite you in the butt.

I wish you the best as you continue with your PhD!