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[compdoc]

greyscale, I totally get that.

It's good that you have things that keep you occupied when you can't be with your guy. Is there anything he is interested in that he could do in new city?

Even if it's just scouting out the restaurants...

[greyscale]

Well, he did develop a new interest in yoga, which is perfect.

Tomorrow is our 14th anniversary (from when we started dating). Made a skype date to talk [virtually] face to face... we don't do that nearly often enough.

[pats12]

Just found this thread--

We have about a quarter of our faculty doing LDRs, mostly because we are a rural SLAC and most bigger cities are 2+ hours away. Some of our faculty have partnered up and rented houses together and it seems to be working okay--these use the house during the week and most of them scatter on the weekends. I should mention that they are all in different departments and don't see each other at work so it isn't a problem of too much togetherness as far as I can see. Seems to save on bills too.

[westcoastgirl]

It's looking more and more like our two body problem will not be solved this round, though we had high hopes that the end might be near. We have a lull in the storm since he has an NEH grant next year and he'll go on the market again this fall applying near-ish by (able to commute on weekends). It's still disappointing and scary. We are both the types that thrive in LDRs (which has really surprised me). We talk all day and skype at night for at least an hour. I think we talk more in our LDR than we do when we are together. And we rarely fight (not the case at home). We have a young child though and that's what we are worried about. We are looking at another eight years of this.

Good vibes to everyone.

[compdoc]

Oh, my, westcoastgirl... 8 years! I am barely making 8 months. Mycompguy is coming to town tomorrow and won't leave till Thursday. I am thrilled.

[southerntransplant]

Our present time frame is 2-5 years. Probably more like 5. STpouse is closer to the Grandtransplantlets now than she was here in Swelterville. Five years will set them firmly in the pre-angsty-teen years, which would then be a good time to come back home. There are a couple of other reasons for the 5 year marker, but in short, it will be a good time point.

I'm heading over there this weekend.

[cliointampa]

Well I am trying to figure out if I should take a position 200+ miles away when my sig other wants to stay put.  Very confusing because he wants me to take it but doesn't want to move.  This kind of decision is really hard. It seems like I have to choose: my career or my guy.  It's so unfair.