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« Reply #36285 on: November 17, 2009, 11:34:46 PM » |
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You don't need the money to survive right now, but you are going through a difficult time and it would be nice to be able to pamper yourself a little bit. I wouldn't spend the whole thing, or even most of it, but I would say thank you and not worry about it.
If your brother had a habit of overspending or was financially strapped himself, then it would be another story.
Sorry to hear about your break-up.
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« Reply #36286 on: November 17, 2009, 11:37:18 PM » |
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origamigal: So sorry to hear about the breakup; it sounds very, very hard. Take heart; you will find support on the fora.
I was 30 years old when I started grad school, and 40 when I finished. I attended school in a very expensive city, and when I went from job in normal city to grad stipend in pricey city, my income dropped by half while my rent doubled. I did various jobs to make ends meet, but it wasn't easy. For most of that time, on birthdays and Chanukah, my mother and one of my sisters would send me checks -- $100, $200 here and there. At my age, and as someone who prided herself on being financial independent, it was embarrassing. I felt exactly as you did: the kid who wasn't quite ready to be on her own (even though I'd been on my own since I was 19). But really, I was grateful for the help. There was no sense of obligation incurred, just a genuine, generous offer of help. And the help was welcome; it made the difference between having to scrape by and being able to manage without that much hardship. Now that I have an excellent job and a great salary, they don't need to do that anymore. But I've followed their lead and have sent checks to friends who are struggling financially, because I'm now in a position to help. No strings, just a gesture that shows one's humanity.
I agree with concordancia; thank your brother for his kindness, and use the money to make your life a little easier during this difficult time.
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« Reply #36287 on: November 17, 2009, 11:48:30 PM » |
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I am certainly reserving the *right* to use it, if that's what you're asking. :-)
Of course, I assume that just from this posting alone I will garner throngs of applicants. I will be sure to immediately reject out of hand all those who address me as "Dear Sir" or who fail to use fancy paper clips.
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« Reply #36288 on: November 18, 2009, 04:42:00 AM » |
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I am certainly reserving the *right* to use it, if that's what you're asking. :-)
Of course, I assume that just from this posting alone I will garner throngs of applicants. I will be sure to immediately reject out of hand all those who address me as "Dear Sir" or who fail to use fancy paper clips.
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D.U.D.E.. Immensely uncool. You would be wise to remember the immortal words of LarryC in giving advice to a forum newbie: "Don't piss off Pry or Vox." I am Vox, and I am pissed off. VP Why haven't either one of us used that as a signature line? Well, I think I will. And who is this person anyway? |
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« Reply #36289 on: November 18, 2009, 06:23:30 AM » |
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Kamigogo is a Louis Vuitton spambot. No one wants those tacky bags, so why don't you peddle your vinyl elsewhere?
Or better yet. I'll report you as a spammer.
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« Reply #36290 on: November 18, 2009, 06:25:34 AM » |
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Forgive the triple post, but November 28th is the third anniversary of the LHC.
Hehe. And I might be right back where I started. Well, Hedgepig was a good run for the most part.
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« Reply #36291 on: November 18, 2009, 06:35:37 AM » |
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Forgive the triple post, but November 28th is the third anniversary of the LHC.
Hehe. And I might be right back where I started. Well, Hedgepig was a good run for the most part.
I'm still available. Technically. I haven't been posting much lately because I'm swamped with grading plus I'm on a stupid accreditation committee. |
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« Reply #36292 on: November 18, 2009, 07:59:03 AM » |
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Concordancia, Pink and History_grrrl--thanks for your posts. It would be nice to just keep the money and allow myself to appreciate his loving gesture.
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« Reply #36293 on: November 18, 2009, 08:05:42 AM » |
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Concordancia, Pink and History_grrrl--thanks for your posts. It would be nice to just keep the money and allow myself to appreciate his loving gesture.
OMG, Origamigal, you ALWAYS take money. No exceptions--well, unless you'd get jail time. |
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« Reply #36294 on: November 18, 2009, 09:20:26 AM » |
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Forgive the triple post, but November 28th is the third anniversary of the LHC.
Hehe. And I might be right back where I started. Well, Hedgepig was a good run for the most part.
Happy almost-Anniversary, and Hail, Prytania! You remain The Foracle to us all. Your fan, The Fiona |
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« Reply #36295 on: November 18, 2009, 11:30:47 AM » |
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Oh my! The LHC is all growed up! Concordancia, Pink and History_grrrl--thanks for your posts. It would be nice to just keep the money and allow myself to appreciate his loving gesture.
OMG, Origamigal, you ALWAYS take money. No exceptions--well, unless you'd get jail time. Ditto. Especially when it's given out of love, respect, and support, which it seems to be. And remember that you will have ample opportunity to help other people once you are able. This is how it works in my family, anyway. Several people have gone back to school as adults, and all have received financial help from extended family. And they, in turn, helped me when I was struggling. I know of a few family members who are considering going back to school, and I hope that when they do, I will be in a position to pass on the assistance. |
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« Reply #36296 on: November 18, 2009, 11:33:34 AM » |
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Forgive the triple post, but November 28th is the third anniversary of the LHC.
Hehe. And I might be right back where I started. Well, Hedgepig was a good run for the most part.
I can't believe I'm saying this, but maybe you guys need something really dramatic to shake you both out of your boots? |
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« Reply #36297 on: November 18, 2009, 02:47:31 PM » |
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It would be nice to just keep the money and allow myself to appreciate his loving gesture.
I expect that is what he would want! Send him a thank you note. I agree with grasshopper (check it!); I accepted lovingly offered help during tough times, and now it is my pleasure to help others when I can. When your chance comes, you can pass it along. |
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« Reply #36298 on: November 18, 2009, 06:15:47 PM » |
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Thanks, everyone, for the dose of common sense. You are all right--it was a thoughtful gesture that shows he is thinking of me, he can afford it, I can use it for practical purposes (I DO have a conference on the horizon!), and, eventually, I will be in a position to be on the giving, rather than the receiving, end.
I realize now that I have been coaching myself since the separation to survive and get through each day, telling myself that I can do it, and that I don't need OrigamiGuy to survive, or in order to be happy. Well, I realize now that just because I don't need OrigamiGuy doesn't mean that I can't accept love from my friends and relatives when they offer it.
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« Reply #36299 on: November 19, 2009, 08:41:49 AM » |
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In an email last night, I wrote to Hedgepig the following:
We can just stop seeing each other, and that will settle it for both of us.
We had another 2-hour date, where I was b*tchy, tried explaining why I was angry, then he got mad, then I got madder, and then I left.
But I can't get past this summer, and it's not like he's even apologetic. His attitude is "Let it go" or "Just get over it."
But I'm having a hard time letting go or getting over my perception that he is just one of many undependable men in this world.
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