I would hestitate to allow the facebook relationship and commentary influence the type of letter OP or anyone would write. I should say, though, that a left-handed compliment in a letter may not torpedo all hopes of graduate study, but no letters will do exactly that. Do your best, if asked to write such a letter, to let a student know what sort of letter you feel capable of submitting and then be straightforward in the letter rather than oblique. It will keep my tylenol consumption down!
Yes, I agree completely about facebook ... my letter will be 100% honest. What facebook changed was whether I would write a letter. It made me realize that perhaps NO ONE would write him a letter, and then he wouldn't even have a chance. Now at least he will be evaluated on his own merits.
It's good to know that straightforward letters are appreciated! I am actually going to ask a question about this in a minute - I hope you respond!
