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[ks]

thanks for your support.

"S feels that she is entitled to queen-like treatment based on J's merits and not her own."

This is my perception but I do not know what she was promised.  I have asked this of her directly and she said they came here as a couple, a package and they have to be considered as a package.  I think she might be over-reaching in what she views as "the package."  I even suggested we put the three sections in a hat and draw. If I get the bum section (which also always has the largest enrollment) then well, that's the way it goes even though I got stuck with it twice before (well, I agreed to do it without discussion their first semester and got stuck with it the next time).


She has gone as far as to indicate that I am just an angry dike (while I am angry I am not a dike and even if I were she wouldn't know about it because I keep my personal life personal) and this is why I have a problem with the scheduling due to the children.

You are right: I'm not against spousal hires in theory.  This is my first experience with one and it may not be representative but it certainly has not been positive.  I don't think spousal hires should be viewed as a bad thing and I don't think the actual person should be expected to take on additional obligations or the worst classes or schedules because they were a spousal hire.
You don't say "we'll hire the spouse but then we are going to treat them like crap."  When you hire someone they are a part of your department, a peer.  Wht got them there comes off the table.

[anon99]

to ks

"For example, J MUST have the 8:00 section so he can leave by 2:30 to get to the bus. S must have the 3:00 section since she comes in at 10:00 and so stays "late" by her definition (6:00). I get by default the 11:00 section which breaks up my day perfectly so I can't get anything done in the lab. "

This sounds like an answer to an algebra problem from high school, but
if Susan doesn't come in until 10 am, why can't she teach the 11 am lecture?  This would leave her the entire afternoon to do work without having to break for a 3 pm lecture and should she want to take off early and spend a quality afternoon or two with the kids, she could.  In turn, you could do the 3 pm lecture and get time in the lab?

[flp]

[Whether you agree with it or not, spousal hire is not nepotism.

nepotism : favoritism shown to relatives or close friends by those in power]

This is hairsplitting and pure semantics... not to mention self-contradictory.