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« on: December 11, 2005, 04:55:20 PM » |
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I'm a woman in a full-time t-t job. There's a male adjunct in my department, about my age (on the older side), whom I find rather attractive. We run into each other occasionally and always have long, fun conversations. I don't feel a pressing need to pursue this, but if I did, would it be inappropriate, weird, etc.?
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anon
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« Reply #1 on: December 11, 2005, 05:45:17 PM » |
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I don't see a problem since your both adults and both faculty.
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« Reply #2 on: December 11, 2005, 07:02:28 PM » |
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Don't believe anon. Someone who can't spell you're cannot be trusted.
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« Reply #3 on: December 11, 2005, 08:08:26 PM » |
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The US is so sexually repressed. Just do him. Sure glad I don't live there any more. Christ with a crutch. It's not a student.
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unimpressed
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« Reply #4 on: December 12, 2005, 12:17:00 AM » |
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And they say the US is a classless society!
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« Reply #5 on: December 12, 2005, 05:16:13 AM » |
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Many schools have policies that exclude dating/romantic relationships between anyone (student, faculty, secretary, cleaner, of any gender) and a person who *has supervisory authority over the person* (of any gender). Unless oxenfree has any kind of authority (as in being "mentor" to a group of adjuncts) there's nothing wrong with that relationship -- and after all, a lot of our adjuncts are spouses or partners of faculty, and which came first is no longer always a matter of living memory. If some situation comes up (e.g., oxenfree is asked to do teaching evaluations on a set of adjuncts before they're re-hired, etc.) s/he should simply say "it would not be appropriate for me to serve in that capacity this year" -- or should be specific, if the climate permits (as it would around here).
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« Reply #6 on: December 12, 2005, 05:23:22 AM » |
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I've been pedantified!
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Prytania
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« Reply #7 on: December 12, 2005, 06:06:32 AM » |
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Pedant is a cutie pie, but I say hook up with the adjunct, too. You're both adults.
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« Reply #8 on: December 12, 2005, 08:10:12 AM » |
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Victim, not victime. This is the United States.
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« Reply #9 on: December 12, 2005, 08:13:15 AM » |
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vi'ctima, not victime. This is the United States.
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Prytania
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« Reply #10 on: December 12, 2005, 08:18:07 AM » |
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Where did you come from? I would have recognized YOUR name but don't seem to recall having seen it.
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boricua
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« Reply #11 on: December 12, 2005, 08:25:19 AM » |
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La Isla Bonita --and I don't mean Madonna.
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Prytania
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« Reply #12 on: December 12, 2005, 08:29:39 AM » |
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I know that, Papi. But did you just arrive on this board or are you somebody I know who changed his name?
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Dear Abby
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« Reply #13 on: December 12, 2005, 08:35:16 AM » |
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The fact that you're asking implies you feel weird about it. Do you? Why? It doesn't seem as though it would be wrong to date this adjunct (just from a legal perspective), but if you think it would be uncomfortable, that's a reason to think more closely about your own feelings before doing anything else.
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« Reply #14 on: December 12, 2005, 08:38:11 AM » |
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I know you know, gorda. I've posted before, under another name, but sparingly; some of the stuff is too heavy for me, but I read a lot of it.
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