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[Anon]

I know what you are going through in that I try to achieve a balance between doing what is right and not putting my head on the chopping block. But you can't be a wimp about everything, otherwise you are allowing this system where the evil PI and be evil to continue. I don't think that you saying something during this extreme case would have really hurt you. I see many wrong and possibly illegal events happening here and I do have to decide which battles to fight, but I'm not going to let every wrong-doing go by. If the wrong-doing is so extreme and is directly hurting a colleague and more importantly someone who is a friend, you absolutely should have done something.

You need to apologize to your former friend and fully admit that you were wrong and scared. Do not make excuses because you don't have a good one. She may not want to be friends with you anyway. I wouldn't.

[friends, huh?]

This doesn't even have anything to do with friendship. The PIs behavior was totally out of line and someone (YOU) should have said so - friend or no friend.

[another anon]

worried, I have been in your friend's shoes; screwed over and sold out by someone I believed in and considered my friend . For me, the hurt never goes away. The questions never stop; including wondering who is, truly, a friend? When does a career and office politics become more important to someone than a friendship? In my case, I decided that life is too short to waste with someone like that; I never looked back -  your firend may not either.

[Prytania]

In fairness, there are few individuals who will put their job on the line for someone else.

[k16]

So is anything bad going to happen to this PI, anyhow?