Last year, one of my colleagues was notified by her employer that her services would no longer be required. The story, as she told it, was that she was asked to “turn around” an underperforming division, but institutional leaders didn’t really appreciate that turnarounds can cause some pain and later changed their minds. In the end, she said she and her institution parted ways amiably and the person to whom she reported even agreed to serve as a future reference.
Seven months after receiving the bad news, my colleague was still unemployed, but she was not idle. In fact, she was exhausted by almost weekly flights hither and thither to interview at colleges, universities, hospitals, and consulting firms all over the country. In search after search she was one of two or three finalists. A finalist, yes. The finalist, no. She was stumped about her lack of progress. “I know I have the credentials, and I definitely clicked with the search committee,” she reported repeatedly. “This makes no sense.”
After watching her grow ever more confused and despondent, a few of us put our heads together to try to figure out why she wasn’t making better headway. It couldn’t have been her CV, which was solid. She wasn’t choking during the interviews or she would not have advanced to the finalist stage. Suddenly a light bulb went on. It must be the references!
“Who exactly is on your reference list?,” a member of the brain trust inquired. Our colleague ticked off the names of people who knew her work well and would say positive things about her, including, she thought, the man who told her it was time for her to leave but offered to serve as a reference. We suggested she delete him from the list and then — shazam! — she was offered a new job almost immediately. Coincidence? I don’t think so.
Have you ever been burned by a reference? Is it ethical to offer to serve as a reference if you know your comments will not be helpful? Have you ever agreed to serve as a reference when you really should not have done so?

